The trainers are graded in size, from the size of a rather fat finger to the largest one being equal to a large penis. If a vagina can take the largest trainer, it can manage a penis! Sometimes the smallest is not small enough, so you could start with a cotton bud, or something similar.

You will need plenty of Genital Lubricants, like KY jelly or oil to help your trainer to slip into the vagina. Start with the smallest size that gives pressure on the walls of the vagina. If it does not give pressure then it is not helping. You should feel strong pressure, but not pain.

Squeezing and relaxing the muscles that control your pee will ease the pressure. It will also help the spasm. It is those muscles which cause the pain of vaginismus. The squeezing and relaxing is called Kegel's Exercises

Once the pressure is gone, move on to the next size. If you can manage the largest trainer, you can manage a penis. (Even a large one)

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