Sexual Desire is very easy to pretend, even to yourself. At the start of a relationship, it can all feel very exciting and sexy, and the level of desire can be raised above the normal. In early teenage years, it can also be higher than normal, but the level drops between seventeen and twenty. Sexual Desire changes with the menstrual cycle too. When you think about treatment, you need to think very hard about what is the right level for you. Is the desire really down or lost, or has it simply settled into a normal lower level?

Assessment
The first part of treatment is talking, to find out what is normal for you. If your desire has dropped, then there will be a reason for that.
There can be medical reasons, so it is wise to check with your doctor if you are not sure. Common causes are relationship problems, grief, stress, depression and anxiety. If you are having sex more often than you want to, it can seem as if your desire is lost, but it is not. You just never go without sex for long enough to feel the need for it. It is best to find out the cause, and deal with it, before trying to get your sexual desire back.

Increase Sexual Awareness
Next you have to start "thinking sexy", and noticing sexy pictures on films and TV, reading sexy stories and magazines. Start touching your body in a way that feels nice, but not sexy. Think about sexy scenes and dreams, and build a set of mental images that could feel sexy to you.

Practice feeling sexy
For the next stage, touch yourself in a more sexy way, using the mental images you have built up to help to turn you on. After a while you may like to bring yourself to an orgasm by *Masturbation*. If you do not have orgasms, get as much pleasure as you can.

If you have a partner
This is the time to do Sex Therapy. You will be touched by your partner, and do touching in return, in a safe and warm place. There will be no pressure on you, so your natural feelings can return.

Keep up the good work
Remember that whatever turned you off in the first place may happen again. If it does, be ready to deal with it. Remember, too, the things that helped you to turn on again, and keep doing them. Also remember that sexual desire goes up and down normally, and can be upset by a whole range of things. If it came back once, it can come back again, so don't worry.