1. Taking plenty of time, one person explores the other’s naked (if possible) body, avoiding sexual areas. For some people nakedness is too difficult, and they like to start with some underwear or a T shirt. Do not try to give pleasure, but notice the skin feelings and emotional feelings you get from doing and being done to.
2. After 2 weeks of doing this twice a week, if you feel enough confidence, go on to including nipples and breasts, and try different ways of touching. If you have been wearing some clothes, it is time to take them off if you can. You might like to use massage oil to add variety. Touching through fabric, or using a soft brush or feather might be good.
3. The same again, only now ask for anything that you like, and guide your partner’s hand. You might like to try the ‘spoons’ position, when one person sits back to front with the other. This makes it easier to guide the hand that is doing the touching.

When you feel ready, go on to Stage Two.