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Submitted by mkarliner on Thu, 27/01/2005 - 11:49. Relationships

Most of us want a relationship with another person to love and care for, who will love and care for us in return. Some people spend their entire lives searching for the right relationship, and others give up the search as hopeless. For some, relationships are too difficult, even impossible, for others they are easy to make but hard to keep. Any relationship passes through good times and difficult times, and seems to have a life and pattern of its own. No two relationships are the same.

We at Partner Therapy Group have thought about some of the things that make relationships difficult, and give you our thoughts in the pages below. If your particular difficulty is not mentioned here, you can contact us. Therapy for relationship problems can often help.

Arguments in RelationshipsArguments in MarriageArgumentsInfidelity
Violence in Relationships and MarriageInability to SeparateCultural Differences in Relationships and MarriagePower Struggles in Relationships and Marriage
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i don't know if he loves me anymore

Submitted by rebekah on Thu, 21/06/2007 - 13:27.

I've been with my partner for nearly three years now.
When we first got together it was instant passion and we both fell very much in love with each other within a couple of months.
I fell pregnant after we'd been together for 5 months and we both decided to have the baby, a boy now 20months old, because we could see nothing that might affect our relationship and we were both very happy.

Since having our baby, our relationship has seemed to get worse and worse. Although we do still have a few good times together, mostly when we're relaxed and away from the home, that brings back the love we have for each other. Living together is just not as good as it was or could be now.

My partner closes up as soon as i mention anything remotely emotional, which in turn frustrates me. He will ignore me and not look at me at all when i speak to him about the relationship and how we can improve it and what his thoughts are about it.

In the last year though, he has told me that he's not in love with me anymore, 3 times! Two of those times he admits was because he was frustrated with me, but i'm not sure about the other one which he said on new years eve just gone. The other times he told me he said it because he wanted me to hurt and to see what it was like to hurt as he does when i make litte comments when we argue.

He seems quite distant from me a lot of the time, doesn't hug me, kiss me, tell me he loves me, hardly smiles at me, and doesn't even treat me like he would any one of our friends. He also blames me for nearly everything wrong in his life and seems to think that if i wasn't in it anymore he would be happy again.

This really upsets me because we have a child together and i love him very much, and still fancy him. But seems very much un-reciprocated.

Please help

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i don't know if he loves me anymore

Submitted by lovelu on Mon, 03/03/2008 - 10:21.

problem is with guys , we dont know whats going through their heads , maybe do a sex role play, and he may show the spark again, its hard but you need to keep trying, btw you could try playing his way , pretending your not boverd ? x x

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Hello

Submitted by angeliamarie12 on Thu, 07/02/2008 - 04:39.

Hello rebekah My name is Angelia... I read urs story about whats been going on.... umm I had a similar thing happen to me... but I up and left because, even tho i told him he wasent the person I met 3 years ago.... he never understood and thought I was the one that had changed.. SO anyway I up and left... and hurted for awhile because i truly loved him and wanted to be with him for the rest of my life... so it was like a month then i started dateing agian.... a different man... and I get a call from the one i dated for three years saying that he realized that he did wrong and wanted to be a better person so we hooked back up and are still together and our love is stronger then ever... what i am getting at is sometimes u dont know what u have tell u have lost it.... mabey take a break from him for awhile and see if he can live without u... I bet he will change then.... Trust me on that

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I am sorry to hear this,

Submitted by gordman on Mon, 27/08/2007 - 17:57.

I am sorry to hear this, sometimes these things happen and they are getting hard to control. It's difficult to find the cause, there are many psychological explanations for that, this is why I think marriage therapy could be a good option for you two although it's not clear for me if you are actually married. I have to fight this, it's the best way, no matter if you win or loose, you will have your conscience clean.

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