This is a situation Which arises in almost every committed close relationship, so it is very common! Each person thinks they have right on their side, and the other person is wrong. Usually both partners have very good reasons why their own position is the best one, and can see no reason to change their minds. Where each person thinks they are right, but disagree, they are locked in a power struggle which nobody wins.

The way out of this has to be working out a compromise on both sides. If one person gives in against their will, they might feel dominated, and that the situation is unfair. This can lead to further struggles later on.

Developing understanding and acceptance of the equal value of each other's point of view, without necessarily agreeing with it, can be a life's work. It requires goodwill and willingness from both, and the ability to work as a team for the greater benefit of the relationship.

Sometimes two people want different things from a relationship, for example, one wants children, the other does not, or one wants faithfulness, the other does not. On these occasions it may be helpful to *see a therapist>Finding a Therapist* for some help to work out a way forward. If a power struggle cannot be resolved, it might be sensible to think about seeing a therapist too.

A useful book to help with these situations is "Getting the Love you want" by Harville Hendrix