Once a person has reached the point of awareness and acceptance of being gay, questions about whether or not to 'come out' will arise. And if the gay man or woman decides to be open about their sexuality, it is very important to consider carefully with whom to share this. For some, the possibility of sharing it with parents is definitely off-limits, because rejection is most likely to ensue, if not a complete severing from the family. There may be a family member who is more likely to be understanding and accepting, perhaps a sister or brother, aunt or uncle. It is really essential to be discerning about with whom this fact is shared. Some gay people find it in their best interests to move right away from their home area, so as not to be constantly tense and anxious about whether they are seen socially only with people of their own gender.

Gay people experience a lot of discrimination, 'put downs' and teasing, and it is unnecessary to add to this unduly by sharing with those who will be unlikely to understand and accept. The workplace too, is often an inappropriate environment for coming out.
For persons in the public eye, their decision about disclosure can pose a real dilemma, particularly if married. The question of personal integrity versus possible distress or shock to others must be carefully weighed. It is tragic that this even needs to be considered, but society as a whole, is not yet ready to accept those who are perceived as different, or even 'abnormal'!

Sharing with a non-judgmental friend could be a good place to start. Whatever you do about coming out, consider it carefully, to avoid hurt to yourself and others.