'Argument' can mean a discussion or a debate, a quarrel or a dispute.

On the one hand it can be productive and stimulating and on the other, it is often destructive and distressing.

Arguments in a marriage can be healthy. A couple who can recognise each others differing needs, views or wishes will certainly argue or discuss, but things are likely to be worked out.

However, arguments as quarrels indicate problems in a relationship and they can often be started deliberately. If a couple's need for sex differs this means may be used by one partner to push away the other when they are becoming 'too close for comfort'. This is frequently the cause of friction in a relationship.

Quarrelsome behaviour by either partner can also result from feelings of inequality about money or decision taking, a lack of confidence or self-esteem or a feeling of resentment for the perceived independence or carreer success of the other.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy can help you to identify and resolve current problems which lie behind constant disputes in a relationship. Some of these are a 'hang over' from difficulties in the past and cause you to over react when similar situations arise.
Once the problem source is recognised therapy will help you to let go of the past bad experience.