I'm a 16 year old girl and am gay. I found out that I was this way about 7 and a half months ago. I've been dating my girlfriend ever since but in secret. No one knows about our relationship and I cannot keep this inside of me anymore. I hate lying to my friends and family and I hate that I cannot make myself be "normal". My girlfriend says to just wait until we are 18 and are able to make out own decisions but I feel as if I'm about to explode from the pain of keeping a secret this huge. I do not want to end things with my girlfriend but I hate feeling the way I do. I feel dirty and sinful and cannot help it. I would appreciate any advice that anyone could give to me, whether optimistic or not. Any opinion is welcomed and please do not be afraid to hurt my feelings because I am desperate for answers. Thank you for any advice given.

I have been married for 23 years and out of those years together I have only had sex with my husband handful of times!

My husband has all ways been great in all every areas like giving a 100% to the children, sharing the responsiblities of the up keep of the house and working' He is kind and considerite in most areas but he has never wanted sex unless i make the first move.

Now the children have their own lives and have their own homes I feel it time for me to sort this situation out.

Over the last 23 years I have asked he on so many occation what was wrong, or is it me, or is he tired, or was he gay? When I was first married to him this use to cause a lot of arguments as I felt he was not telling me straight about the cause. He would say nothing at first, but as time went on he would give reasons like, i just got out of the habit of having sex which has caused him to have issues about the whole thing and he would sort it out.

Each time he said that things just went back to the way they were and in the end I suggested a sex counselling which didn't help ever.

He all way tells me he loves and fancies me when I ask him. This situation has caused me so much pain, confusion, anger and uncertenty of is he gay?

Four months ago and on my birthday my boyfriends best friend asked me if I had ever thought that my boyfriend may be confused about his sexuality. I wasn't aware of it but a number of people had said the same thing to me within a matter of weeks. I decided to ask my boyfriend who told me that he was confused about his sexuality. We had been together for 7 years and had lived together for a year. He said that he hadn't known this all of his life and he had only just realised 18 months ago that he was attracted to other guys. Does anyone know if this can actually happen? Physically our relationship was fine we had no problems for the entire 7 years we were together. My whole world has fallen apart and I am struggling to carry on as I feel I have been used as a way of him denying who he actually is and can't understand why he would continue with our relationship for that long. My now ex boyfriend first said that he didn't know if he was straight or bisexual, then later he said he didn't know if he was bisexual or gay and more recently he has said he doesn't even know if he finds women attractive anymore. I just don't understand how someone could be with a woman for 7 years and then after 4 months not find them attractive anymore.

This is a complicated issue for me and one which has dragged on for over three years now. I hope that there is somebody out there who can help me.

I am a gay and quite comfortable with that. I am "out" to everybody I know (work and home) and have no issues nor baggage of any kind. Around three years ago I met a guy at work whom I soon grew to like. He was/is "straight" and I knew him through his girlfriend (who also worked at the same place). It was not until he split with his girlfriend that we became far more close and eventually we began seeing one another outside of work.

After a short time he asked me to help him find a new girlfriend, which is fine, given that I do have a lot of straight female friends. I did arrange some dates for my friend and really did not pay too much attention to this at the time, because I almost had it figured that as soon as he did find another girlfriend, I would not be too hot on his list of "best friends." However, it seemed that every time he made arrangements to go on a date, it fell through. It was not until later on that I found out that he either did not turn up, called it off at the last moment, or completely stood the woman in question up, to the point where he would not even make any contact afterwards, not even to explain why he had let her down.

My boyfriend of two years and I had a good few drinks last night and during a chat he revealed to me that when he was sixteen he kissed three different men and had sex with one of them. He hasn't had a relationship with a man as far as i know and he has had several long term relationships with women. He tells me hes not gay and that he loves me and that he only told me this because i am his life partner and he wants me to know everything about him. I am so confused i love him dearly and want to believe him but i think i'm just in shock right now. Is he gay or is he straight??

My boyfriend of 6 months has been honest with me from the start. He is 20 years older than me at 49 and whilst his relationship history has been solely with women, his sexual history includes several (about 7) drunken encounters with men, including full sex, BJs, tranvestitism, etc etc.
He says he is not bi-sexual and that these were purely drunken, exploring, almost self-destructive acts involving no intimacy or feelings on his part. He is a recovering alcoholic and has been sober for 3 years. He is also in recovery for internet addiction (BDSM sites) and has not acted out for a year.
I know I shouldnt but I cant help feeling bothered by this side of his past. I am trying to accept him for who he is and accept that no-one is purely hetero but I am scared that I will not be enough for him longterm, and that actually part of him does fancy other men (which is obviously a need that i cannot fulfil).
What does anyone else think? Would I be naive to think that he is telling me the truth and doesnt secretly crave gay further experiences? Would other women be able to handle having a boyfriend with a similar sexual history? Should I be keen to explore BDSM with him (which

I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year and a half, Two days ago he said he is having issues with himself
He was abused as a child, (exact age and by whom I am not sure) and his mother passed away in his early teen years.
He says he finds men attractive but he does not know what to do. We broke up and he spoke with my best friend about it he does not know if this is what he wants to do but wants to figure it out. I am so lost without him not only is he my boyfriend but my best friend. He says he loves me but is not in love with me because he does not believe he can ever be in love with anyone.
I asked if there was any hope of us getting bcak together the only answer I can get is not for right now.
Help?

I have a great boyfriend who I have been with for 4 months but I think he might be gay! I love him with eveything I have but he does girly things! he likes to do hair and he knows how to dress! He talks like a girl! Everyone says that he is gay but it is hard for me to admit it! but he always says oh that girl is hot or sexy! Do you think he is gay?

Hi everybody, im a 16 year old girl currently in High School. Right now I am facing a big problem with my sexuality. Many times before many kids at my school have told me how they used to think I was gay, which I'm not or atleast I dont think so. The whole football and baseball team even thought so, I even had to defend my sexuality the other day. They all thought so because of the fact that I tend to hang around with alot of girls, some which are bisexual, but just because I hang around the people I do it doesn't necesarilly mean that I am, right? I've thought about being bisexual but it just really isn't my thing. I do admit I do sometimes catch myself staring at a girl a little too hard but it's just because what she's wearing or something she might have really intrigues me. I respect anybody else's choice of being gay or bisexual, but once again it really isn't my thing. Does this make me sound stupid, or am I just defending my sexuality a little too offensively? What if I did turn out to be gay? Would there be anything wrong with that? I need help, I'm so confused yet so young to be worrying about this kind of stuff. I would sure appreciate any advice that you could give me.

Hi. I have been with my b/f for 8 months now and we are a fantastically strong couple - but his past keeps getting in the way for me.

He has been on the scene for 12 years now whereas I only started going last year. Understandably, he has met guys out there, some of whom are ex-shags, mates who are into casual sex, and a couple of ex-partners.

There is a considerable age gap between me and my b/f. My b/f is in his early 40s. He likes younger guys. But last night we were out and we met a guy who my b/f had a fling with 18 months ago. He was 19 when my b/f met him. This guy was rubbing my face in it, talking about what great sex he had with him, all the stuff they did. It made me feel sick to the core. At the same time, I was scared to intervene or say anything to him because he had a very dominating personality and by the sounds of it is prone to violence. My b/f didn't notice any of this, he was too flattered by the attention he was receiving. That's not his fault because he has a low self-esteem. Needless to say we ended up arguing last night, and very nearly broke up.

I'm worried how my b/f ever shacked up with this guy. Both of his ex's were in their early twenties when he met them, and both of them are basically emotionally confused people. I am also in my early twenties. I have this awful feeling deep inside that my b/f goes for emotionally immature men in their twenties - I hate to use this word, but targets them in a sense. I don't know whether this is right. I don't know if I'm one of those emotionally immature people.