This may be long so here is a little summary before you read too much and may find it not interesting.Grandma died, she lived in the Midlands whilst me and my older brother live at home with our parents. i was 21 he is 27. My best friend i knew for 2 years left, a girl older then me. Left me and broke up with me after the most pettiest row. If finally became sense that she used me through out my our relationship, but i was blind. Then my dear brother was planning his stag do before he got married. He didn't invite me to the stag do. Top of that he clearly had discussion with at least one friend about the situation. In short, i attended the wedding even though i didn t want to, moved out after it more or less for a work placement. i left the work placement cos i was too depressed. Moved back in. Try to bleach myself(i know there was many ways to do it, but i heard this was the most painful way, which i thought i deserved to, after killing myself in the family home). I failed, confessed to my doctor. Asked if i wanted pills, i said no, thats about that. I was still in depression even though i no idea and did it again 7 days later. Thankfully i somehow survived without any1 suspecting what i did.

Hello again to everyone,
I'm having a lot of trouble dealing with things in life right now when it comes to my family, and yes I know that that sounds terrible!! I'm a stay at home mom with my daughter and step son who are very close in age and both under the age of three which is a handful enough on its own. But in being a stay at home mom I am the one who does everything and takes care of whatever needs done around the house. I don't mind cleaning up, cooking, doing laundry, bathing kids, and chasing them all over the house all day when its just us at home.

But when my husband gets home and his 13 year old son they throw their stuff all over the place and sit and play PS3 or watch TV!! My husband does help a little but he works all day lifting heavy parcels and is gone from 6:00 am til about 6:00 pm so when he gets home he eats and relaxes for a bit and I can understand why! But his 13 year old son comes home and does nothing!! He walks past a mess and just looks at it or kicks it out of the way!! He does dishes and it has been his chore for the past 6 months and I still have to redo them the next day when I go into the coupord to get a plate or pot or pan to cook something because there is food all over it still!

I found out my husband cheated on me right before he got deployed. We didn't even have time to get to the bottom of things or find out where in the world did he have time to do this. I have forgiven him but I can't forget the infidelity happened. I love my husband very much, next month we would be married for 1 yr. Of course problems arise in the 1st year. I heard the 1st year is the hardest and it has been extremely hard for us. I got what I wanted and that was for him to leave her alone and he did, he's deployed! What should I do!

Some years ago I left a violent relationship and divorced my husband - this was granted via the courts on the grounds of proven violence. I retained custody of my son, and my daughter (who was verging on the uncontrollable) went to live with her father. I left my husband for my current partner as I had reached an age where I knew that I just couldnt cope with another 20 years of him coming home from the pub and falling down drunk, running up gambling debts and generally refusing to discipline the children or set any kind of example. He never played with the children nor got involved in any way in their education. It got to such a stage that I dreaded family holidays as I would go up with the children and he would return to his room drunk - resulting in violence and generally doing stuff which he later said he could not remember.

My mother and father were not supportive of my actions, neither was my sister - though all 3 were well aware of what was happening. I tried in vain in particular to convince my mother of what I had gone through but she refused to take any of it on board and insisted in continuing communication with my ex husband (who naturally denied everything).

Hello ,Our family problem is my brother,
he borrowed a serious large amount of money in the thousands from our mum ,who had to cash in an ISA
as she is retired, he is a local councillor.

Its been over 3 years now. So we wrote to him at his office as his partner intercepts his mail and wants nothing to do with us,but everything to do with taking my mums money.

He's replied only in an email trying to cause an argument. Because we dared to write to him asking for it back he is very angry so basically he doesn't have to pay anything back at all and cut off communication.
although my mum has been ill with cancer ,he doesn't even telephone her to see how she is. I feel my brother is really letting his family down.

I dont have the same moral standards as him thankfully although I'm way from perfect. We only have an email from him admitting he borrowed the money. My mum never made up a contract because she trusted him as he is family!

Any advice would be grateful maybe my mum has learnt an expensive lesson .

My younger brother of 19years has put our family through hell and back. And ive had enough. I am 25 years old. I live with my mum who has just finally gotten rid of my good for nothing dad. I have been her financial, emotional and spiritual rock, for many years. I dont begrudge her, she is my mother and I wouldnt have it any other way. I have had to be my younger brothers father and brother for many years as well.

My younger brother is very very volatile. He has a terribly violent temper where he goes into a blind rage and literally loses all control and reason. This affects his relationships with everyone he comes in contact with, notably his family and his girlfriend.

He is very disrespectful to me and my mum when he gets like this. I have made it clear I dont care how he speaks or treats me, but if he disrespects my mum, I will get involved because I wont stand for that.

He lies about everything. Where is he going, how he paid for this, where he got that from. He will blatantly steal your things then lie about it even when you have proof.

He started stealing from around 10years old. He was never satisfied with what he has had and always wanted more. One day he the collection money from our church. My mum was so ashamed she almost didn't go back.

My younger brother of 19years has put our family through hell and back. And ive had enough. I am 25 years old. I live with my mum who has just finally gotten rid of my good for nothing dad. I have been her financial, emotional and spiritual rock, for many years. I dont begrudge her, she is my mother and I wouldnt have it any other way. I have had to be my younger brothers father and brother for many years as well.

My younger brother is very very volatile. He has a terribly violent temper where he goes into a blind rage and literally loses all control and reason. This affects his relationships with everyone he comes in contact with, notably his family and his girlfriend.

He is very disrespectful to me and my mum when he gets like this. I have made it clear I dont care how he speaks or treats me, but if he disrespects my mum, I will get involved because I wont stand for that.

He lies about everything. Where is he going, how he paid for this, where he got that from. He will blatantly steal your things then lie about it even when you have proof.

He started stealing from around 10years old. He was never satisfied with what he has had and always wanted more. One day he the collection money from our church. My mum was so ashamed she almost didn't go back.

My daughter is 29. Although her mother left me when she was very young, I’d say she had an excellent childhood, staying with me every weekend and then living with me as a young adult. Six years ago I funded her on a “gap year� to Australia. One year became four years when she did a University course there (funded by me and my parents). She did very well on the course and asked me to go to her graduation. When I got there she treated me pretty badly - stood me up on my first night and messed me around on other occasions. I got angry (just angry, not violent) and we had a row. Although we saw each other again before I left, it was not properly resolved.

Now my daughter wants nothing more to do with me. Nearly three years have gone by, she’s been back home for 18 months, and I gather she’s living in the same town, although I’m not allowed to know her address. Obviously we need to talk, but all my efforts at communication (which I know do reach her) are ignored. My parents have had a very occasional brief card from her but that is the extent of our knowledge.

I’ve tried contacting her mother to see if she can help and she is pretty hostile too. Another puzzle - we got on pretty well throughout my daughter’s childhood, but now I seem to be reviled there as well.

Well, I was livin with my sister's grandfather's house this year. He was always drinking and hitting on my mother and I. As was his son. I told them I wouldn't touch either of them with a six-ft. pole even if they payed me. Him and his son were always making fun of me telling me I was going to turn into a slut or the "town hor". I never felt bad because i always knew it wasnt' true. A month later i started going out with this one guy. And i really, really like him. but my sister's grandpa said that in two weeks i was going to be married and would start my training as a hor. his son said that i was a slut and that i would follow my mothers footsteps although she was never a slut. two weeks later with no marriage bells and i stil with my boyfriend the inevitable happens. my sister's grandpa threatens my mom that hell skin our animals alive than roast them over the fire. my mother spit at him and in return he nocked her to the ground. she had told him that his son had called me a slut and so he told my mother that i was a lier. i had no notice of this until my mother came over to my cousins house with my sisters uncle behind her holding one of my suitcases. he was talking to amber(his dope-ho) that he would have slapped my mother harder. i would have blacked out if my boyfriend hadn't stayed on the phone for over an hour calming me down. i ask this why do people who are so miserable make mine or anyone else's lives miserable. i ask this with only a suitcase to my name.