I'm 22 years old and have been going through a stressful time over the past year, family passed away and I was left to care for my younger sister, I am out of work because of this and consequently it is leaving me with nothing to do but look at four walls every day. I then, just after this happened, met my now girlfriend whom I care for very dearly, the problem is that no matter how hard I try I cannot seem to make her reach orgasm, she says that she doesn't mind and that just the sex with me, for her is enough, and to be quite honest it's wearing me down to the point where I feel inadequate for her, sometimes I feel like she should be with someone who could make her achieve something that I can't seem to give her.

This, I believe has led to more sexual problems both physical and mental, I get paranoid about her being with other people sexually, thinking the worst things about someone who I normally would trust everything to, and I find that now I can't seem to hold an erection for the course of sex and, whats more find it hard to orgasm myself, through masturbation and sex my erections are not as hard as they used to be and I feel like I am nothing but a disappointment to her. I suppose I sound like a complete mental wreck of a person but I think that I can't get out of this rut unless I seek help, maybe someone could possibly point me in the right direction?

Sorry, this is long winded:

About six months ago, my girlfriend of 5 years and I had a falling out. It ended up that we were about to be together for five years and she wanted to know where we were going as far as marriage and stuff (I'm 23 and she is 22 at the moment). I told her that I would change many things for her, one of them being rough sex and another being the way I talk to her. I wasn't always nice to her with the things I'd say but since then I have changed and talk to her very kindly, jokingly and our sex life had become amazing!

As far as marriage goes, I hadn't asked her but she was pushing the issue, saying things like "You know, my dad would really like if you talked to him first about us". So I did and her dad was overjoyed and wished us the best.

About 2 months ago, a girlfriend of hers from high school contacted her to hang out. Her and three other girls were going over there and I was fine with it, I've always been fine with her doing her own things. However, the other three girls backed out and I got a very weird feeling about her going by herself. I told her it might not be a good idea because I wasn't sure what was going on and neither was she. It turned out that her friend was having heart surgery and I told her to go and support her.

I am new here, I am so desperate for an answer that I consulted google just to get an answer. I’ve been married 5 years already and my marriage is like a routine, on a workweek (M-F): we both get up in the morning & get ready for work, I go home to take care of HIS dog while he goes and hit some golf balls for an hour. We get home at 5:30 from work, he leaves to go the gym, I go walk HIS dog for 2 hours, I come home and make dinner, he comes home @ 9 pm-eats-watches a little TV with me-he takes shower-let the dog out in the yard to go potty-he goes to bed and waits for me to scratch his back until he falls asleep, I clean up the dishes-take shower-go to bed-scratch his back.

On the Saturdays, he wakes up @ 9am – let the dog go potty – he turns on TV and watches ESPN all day long or go golfing with his buddies. I get out of bed @ 9:30 get ready for Saturday hike with the dog, I come home and make a late lunch for myself wait for husband to come home and see if we’re doing anything together, if I’m lucky he’d ask me to go to out to dinner or just stay home and watch TV.

On Sundays, he wakes up @ 9am – let the dog go potty, mows the lawn – he turns on TV and watch all day long – goes to the gym and back home @ 6pm, I wake up the same time – get my cleaning tools- every time I’ve ask for him to help he’ll say “Not right now, I’m watching TV�, I sort the laundry and put them in the machine then dryer, I leave my chores to go to laundrymat to wash comforters, I come back to resume my chores (vacuum, sweep the garage, laundry, dishes, clean the whole house), he comes back from the gym and I’m still cleaning, he turns on his XBOX and play while I’m still on my knees cleaning toilet, his sink and washing his clothes.

My boyfriend is online alot, thats where we met originally although neither one of us was looking for it. he has alot of online friends. 99% of them are women, says thats who he gets along with better as he is an only child raised by his mother. He works wierd shifts and is somtimes up until 4 or 5 in the morning, usually on the internet playing games or chatting on MSN with friends. Lately hes been talking to a lot of girls and letting me read what they say mind u, but still has overly friendly talks with them.

If they say something a little risque or wahtever he doenst say oh i have a girlfriend he just plays along with it and laughs. He'll let them know another time that i exist but hes not overly offering with the information. I just dont kwno what to think, i've been cheated on before and i just dont want that to happen here. Maybe i'm just overly cautious...maybe i'm looking for somthing thats just not there. I checked out his myspace that he went onto only because some girl said he should and he seems friendly with the 2 friends (girls) that are on there. I ask him about it and he tells me all about it.I just wonder if hes leaving info out.

I told him before what i consider cheating "If you wouldnt do it with your partner beside you there then its considered cheating".

Hi, i have been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years now and are very much in love. She is an atheist and so isnt religious where as i could be likened to being christian or catholic becuase i uphold the same principals and read the bible. But recently something came up that had just never occured in conversation before about my attitude towards a certain controversy and because of what i believe and she doesn't. She thinks im a discriminant towards this certain group of people whereas im simply saying what i believe from my upbringing and the bible. She used to say she understood my way of thinking when we talked about my beliefs and ethics but because of this she says im discriminant. I'm really hurt because im not, she wont talk and all we do is argue in circles about it and she says im diseased in the head for it, i think shes putting pressure on me for my beliefs or her and im not strong enough to leave her and i dont want to even though i try to be strong in arguments with her, but its just now that my beliefs are a problem so i cant see why she cant understand like she has before, i really dont know what to do please help me.

I'm not 100 per cent but i think my boyfriend is cheating on me, he's become very weird with his phone, he covers up what he writes to girls on msn and bebo. He's lying saying he hasnt given out his number to girls when he has. He told me hes never had unprotected sex yet i find out hes never used a condom from his friend, which worries me in future references. he asked a girl if she'd sleep with him because apperently his mate told him 2 ask her to prove to me that not all girls like him. Every time i confront him on new information i get he constantly gets stressy and very argumentive, i asked for a break he refused it saying he loved me 2 much to lose me, yet hes being like this, can anyone help me because im very confused.

Hi, my name is Jessica (I'm 24 years old) I am going through something really hard right now and my boyfriend and I keep fighting about it. I have been with him for 2 years now. About six months ago he got served for child support. He didn't know he had a child. Apparently 10 months or so before we got together he slept with a skank. Anyways the paternity test came back this week and it's his. I have been so upset by the whole matter and anytime someone brings it up, I begin to cry and can't stop. He just gets mad at me when I try to tell him my feelings and why I am so sad. He will not see where I am coming from. He tells me that I am living too much in the future and only looking at the negative side of it.

I on the other hand am so sad because my beliefs have always been...find someone you love...get married...have children TOGETHER! Now it will never be like that...I will be stepmom to this child...this child who is part white trash and part him. This child who everytime I look at will remind me of her. My boyfriend will have gone through everything with this child first and now if we have children it will never be a first. I do not want this child in my life...this stranger who is coming to take my boyfriend away from me. He is going to put that child first and I will mean nothing. I can tell he is excited about it now, a BOY...oh a boy so he can teach him baseball and all the rest of boy things. I am so resentfull and I do not know how to proceed. I can't seem to stop thinking about what it's going to be like.

I have been with my girlfriend for 2 yrs and shes the most honest loving caring person you could ever meet, shes 25. Me i'm 37 travelled the world number of times, lived in Australia and was single for nearly 5 yrs before i met Angela, my problem is i can not let go of my single life as much as i love my girlfriend. I had never really lived with a girl up until now, always been scared of commitment but when she finally moved in i found i loved it, but problems started when I kept hiding my mobile because i was getting txt from girly friends so my girlfriend started getting suspect and found number of naughty txt which was out of order.

So the trust was in danger, then it happened again so she left me but with my charming ways and my blackbelt in lieing she came back to me. Everything was amazing and i started to realise i wanted this girl in my life forever, take her to oz and start a new life. Then my world fell apart, i left my hotmail account open one night and yes she look in and found lots of pics i had kept of girls both past and recent plus emails which i had sent while i was with her and they was naughty. I was never physicaly unfaithful to her just injoyed the fun game of txting and emailing. Now she has left me and i'm devestated i can believe how much i have hurt her and all i want is her back in my life, she doesn't want to talk to me ever again which i don'y blame her.

I have read several postings on this site that are very similar to my problem, but not quite the same. I am 24 years old and have been dating my present boyfriend for nearly two years. We have lived together for about a year or so. Almost everything about our relationship is wonderful - we almost never fight, he is sweet and loving, respects me, etc. However, he is different from the man I met. We met the summer after we both graduated college. We used to go out all the time, have lots of sex, and just do lots of fun young people things together. Since then I have started law school and he has a 9-5 job. He has really settled down since we met, which is something I always thought I wanted a man to do for me. We talk openly about our future and as long as things stay the same between us, I am sure we are headed towards marriage.

However, I am really torn. Things have become very boring between us. My boyfriend is getting older (about to be 27), and therefore doesn't like to do any of the things we used to do. Even though I am in law school, and don't have much free time, I would like to go out to parties or a bar every once in awhile like we used to, and he seems to have no interest. Recently, he went on vacation and I found some old videos and photos of him. Before we met he was really crazy. The pictures and videos were of him with past girlfriends partying and having fun and I even found a sex tape of him with another girl. I get really turned on when I think of that side of him, but it seems to all be in his past. I understand that we are older, but we are not married with children yet and I don't feel like at 24 I am completely ready for the married lifestyle.

I have been with my partner for over 11 years.

He's is 14 years older than me and we have always got on excellant.

He dropped a bombshell last week and told me that he is leaving me and doesn't love me anymore. I was shocked and stunded. We have both had alot of pressure on us over the last year or so but I have stuck with him as he means everything to me.

I get mixed messages from him as he still cuddles me in bed and kisses me. He also said he might want me back when he's left.

I was a very confident, strong independant women and over the years he has knocked me for six. I'm 31 now and can't believe I will soon wake up one day soon without him.

I think he's having a break down or something but don't know what to do.

Can any men out there give me any advice? I don't know what the hell I'm going to do when he's gone as no one will ever replace him.