My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year, the first 6 months in our relationship we have always had great sex, of course most of it was when he was drinking, now its like once every 2 weeks, everytime I innitiate it he rejects me, I feel very insecure about this, I have a high sex drive and I don't know what to do anymore, I have tried to talk to him about it, and he says he doesnt want it to get old, I think thats an excuse I was married for 10 years and had a healthy sex life with my ex husband, I love dressing up in lingere and anything sexual I'm up for it, and I know it has nothing to do with my body, I look great. I know he loves me, and we are still young for this to be a problem, he's 27 and I am 29... and the times we do something when he is drinking he doesn't finish after i'm done he's ready to stop... the last experience we had was after a night comming back from a local bar I was so worked up, innitiated he said no, i laid down feeling insecure and then to my surprise he laid down and begin to get me off with out intercourse or oral after that, im smiling from ear to ear I'm going to get it!!!! He then gets up off the bed and say's okay your done I'm going play the video game!!! what the hell was that about???? PLEASE HELP ME, IM TIRED OF GETTING WORKED UP FOR REJECTION :(

I have noticed over the last 6 months or so my boyfriend has begun to watch porn that I myself find absolutly repulsing. I can't even stand the thought of him or anyone for that matter wanting to watch some girl have sex with dogs or horses or any animal! That to me is disgusting, and inhumane. At first it was a once in a blue moon thing, but now it's more like a daily basis thing. He downloads movies of it all the time. I've never actually walked in on him watching them (THANK GOD!). He tries to hide it from me so that makes me think he's ashamed of watching it. Why would you hide something if you weren't?! This porn obsession of his has started causing problems in the bedroom. I don't know what to do. It's just a major turn off and I'm constantly thinking about it and if thats what he imagines when we are doing the deed. Can somebody help?! I don't know what to do!!!!!!

My husband couldn't wait to marry me and sometimes I feel it is because I was a virgin and he'd never had one before. Now we never have sex and I'm not sure what I should do. I feel unattractive to him and recently moved all of my things upstairs so I wouldn't have to feel depressed about being rejected by him night after night. We now have our own rooms and I feel we should be getting divorced, but whenever I try to talk to him about it, he says I shouldn't talk about his libido because it's hurtful or he'll tell me that I have no good reason to want a divorce. He won't talk to me about what is going on and it's driving me crazy!!! Can someone give me advice on what my next step should be or how I can get some help??? I thought being in love with someone naturally made you want to be close to them and have sex with them often. I feel very unloved and unhappy.

I know this will probably end up resulting in counseling, seeing as to how I feel this is more psychological than anything, but I would like to see if anyone on here can help me out first. I am 20 years old, and I've been sexually active for 7 years. I have never had any sexual abuse, including rape, and yet, as of a couple of weeks ago, I find myself terrified of sex.

I have been with my boyfriend now for over a year, and we have a child together, and he has never been threatening to me in any way before. But now, even the slightest touch to my "lower regions" (although I'm sensitive to my breasts, I'm fine with being touched there) makes me jolt and sometimes cry out in fear. I DO have a problem with pleasing people, and we did have sex once after I acquired this fear, and I was silently crying the whole time. Of course, he was upset when he found out (about me crying, not at me being scared), and he no longer initiates contact.

The other night, I was so aroused I didn't have any feelings of scaredness, but half-way through intercourse, it hit me again and I had to stop. Afterwards, I was so overwhelmed I ended up vomiting. I just don't know what it could be- as I've said, I've had no abuse and I used to love everything about sex and anything sexual.

I'm 20 years old and have had 3 partners. When I lost my virginity I accepted that it'd probably hurt, what I didn't expect was to still experience pain and discomfort 3 years later whenever I have sex.

I have never had an orgasm, and due to stress and depression have, over the last year/eighteen months, suffered from repetitive thrush.

I feel like a freak because I simply do not enjoy sex, even if I have been wanting it up to the point of having it. This was a major factor in the break-up of my most recent relationship. I often feel discomfort, whether I've had sex or not, and now feel like I could happily never have sex again if it wasn;t for my desire to have children.

I don't feel comfortable talking to my GP and don't know what to do. Has anyone got any advice? I'm at my wits end. Life's stressful enough, sex should be one of the pleasures we get!

ok, new here, and very nervous. Am currently in therapy because i suffered sexual abuse as a child/teenager. Have only had one boyfriend, earlier this year for a few months. Before that i ran a mile from anyone showing an interest in me. The abuse ended when i got anoxeric. Now many years on i am a healthy weight, but hate everything to do with having a female body and what that means, being a sexual being. I'm finding it very difficult as i get sexual urges but feel guilty at masturbation. I get images of the abuse and its like i am abusing myself.

Recently i think i enjoyed masturbation without the abuse images. But i am struggling to accept this change and feel guilty. I am so scared of sex. I keep thinking maybe i need to see someone who can help me with this. I am not in a relationship with anyone. I am finding it really hard to talk to my therapist about this even though i have seen her for a long time. We are due to finish in a few months. A few months ago i thought maybe i just have to buy a vibrator and force myself to enjoy it. But i don't think that is the answer. I am not sure why i am scared. Obviously cos of the abuse, but even if i tell myself it is safe now i am still scared. I don't know why i can't talk to my therapist about this. Its like i need someone to almost say what is on my mind for me. I don't know if thats embarrassment, or cos i feel naive. I know i feel guilty, digusting, scared, but how do i change this. I did see these vibrator kits for people with sex phobias which were like real thin and worked up to more normal sizes and thought that may be an idea.

I have never had the fortune to experience an orgasm with or without my husband of 25 years, we have tried so many different things, but it occurred to me that I'm not even sure if I feel aroused!! I have read so many articles about feeling the sensations etc, but for me there aren't any sensations that come along at all, I feel no different when kissing and cuddling or having sex than typing this or cleaning the bathroom, help please what can we do?

I hope someone can answer this for me, I've been using dilators for vaginismus. I've gone through from the smallest and am trying to go from the third dilator to the next (the largest), but this one hurts like hell when I insert it (stinging sensation and pain ). When using the others I had some discomfort and stretching but nothing like this. Is this normal ? , should I persevere as so far using the kit has seemed to work (had a smear last week and it didnt hurt as much as it used to).

thanks in advance for any answere etc

I am a 25 year old female, that loves to have sex, I want sex 24/7 I am in a relationship with my fiance who is 29 years old and we are lucky to have sex once a week or once every 2 weeks. He never touches, or looks at me, makes me feel like I am the ugliest girl in the world. He never makes a move on me, but he has his own bathroom in the house and I have seen porn magazines in there.

Yesterday he went online and said he wanted to send me some greeting cards cause I had been sick, I never got the first greeting cards saying get well, but my browser showed anal cards, mypleasure cards, adult porn cards, nude cards, how come he can look at them and get aroused but can't look at me and get aroused, he used the excuse that he was horny all day yesterday, we had sex once, first time in weeks. Please help me

I am 23 years old and have been with my fiance(now) 5 1/2 years. There is just one problem, I don't feel connected to him during sex. So much so that lately when we have sex, I avoid being kissed by him, it just does nothing for me. We recently saw a doctor for premature ejaculation being that that is our biggest problem in the bedroom. Unfortunalety it cost way to much for us to follow the program ($1500). I know this effects his ego so I try not to talk to him about it too often, but everytime after sex he can see the disappointment in my eyes and I have to hide back tears. It hurts me so much to not be on that "same level" with him at the "same time". I know that it is effecting many aspects of our relationship, I see myself pushing further and further away from him, even outside the bedroom. If we can't connect in the bedroom, and I feel myself falling out of love with him, should I marry him?