Hi,

I'm 29 my boyfriend is 37 we have been together 9 years & have three children together. Our sex life has gone from amazing to nothing, last time we had sex was 3 months ago and it was pretty awful!! He wants me experiment more I just feel fat, since having children I havn't been the same... I don't feel very nice at all!!! I really want sex with him but I feel i need to be drunk to enjoy it..!! over months I think he's now got bored, so he doesn;t come near me, no affection at all, no cuddles, kisses nothing!!! It doesn't even seem like we can have a conversation anymore. He says he's living with a stranger! I have caught him looking at porn.. and this has upset me, so he has said he won't look at it anymore. Then 2 nights ago he was acting strange on the pc and I looked the next morning what he had been looking at, and it was women.. beautiful women in suspenders dancing about, showing everything! Now in 9 years I have never worn suspenders, I didn't know that was what he was into? surely he should have said? I have tried other sexy underwear but he never comments on it?
He told me yesterday he thinks I've put on weight, he wants me to feel confident.. and when we have sex he doesn;t want me to just lie there!! however he doesn;t want to force me to do anything I don;t want.

I am a 32 year old male and my 25 year old girlfriend has just now revealed to me that she hasn't totally been comfortable with me giving her oral sex. There are days when she is more comfortable, but then there are days when she isn't comfortable. On those days she's less comfortable, she stops me and we continue with intercourse, with which she is fully comfortable.

She answers "no" when I ask her if she feels that she feels too unclean to allow me to continue or when I ask her if she feels guilty for letting me. Her reasoning is that she feels her vagina is her most vulnerable spot and that she becomes overwhelmed with emotion and can not take the oral stimulation. I ask if the emotions are sad or negative emotions, but she says "no" to this as well. She has never orgasmed through cunnilingus and this explains why.

I was her first lover. Before me, she had not had any sexual contact. Her first sexual contact with me was completely consentual. She is very uncomfortable talking about sex even now that she has been with me for over a year. She says this is because she never had anyone to talk to about it, that the friends in her life were very religious and regarded sex before marriage as a sin. She is not a religious person though.

I am a 19 year old female and I have been sexually active for four years. I have had sexual encounters both in and out of a relationship. I am comfortable masturbating and have been doing so for years, yet i have NEVER orgasmed. Up until recently this never bothered me; I always assumed with more practice it would happen. Recently I have become bothered with my inability to orgasm. I have been told psychological issues may be the source of my problem. I don't think this is the case though. I have always felt very comfortable sexually. I have never felt pressured or regretted any of my sexual encounters. I don't feel guilty or awkward about my sexuality and I am very comfortable with my appearance. I have always been with partners that are kind and understanding. In fact, most people I have been with try really hard to please me, putting my pleasure ahead of there own. I have never had trouble pleasing anyone but myself.

Some people wonder why I even have sex if I cant orgasm. I enjoy sex, really i do. I have plenty of sex. Its fun and it feels good, but something is missing.

I was thought to have suffered from depression and ocd and have been on antidepressents since elementary school. Recently my doctor has figured out I may have been misdiagnosed and changed my diagnosis to ADD (this has been difficult and weird for me) and i have started taking Strattera. I am aware that many of these medicines cause sexual side-effects. Could my inability to orgasm be one of these sexual side-effects? If so, is there a solution? I must note that there was a three month period that I was not medicated and I still could not achieve orgasm. Recently when I try to masturbate it doesn't even feel that good, it feels pretty neutral. I am going to buy a vibrator as soon as i get the chance. I wish I could see a sex therapist but I don't think that's an option for me right now. My parents would not be thrilled.

I am 44 years old and have 3 children. I have been single for 2 years after a 20 year marriage. My boyfriend is not very satisfied with our sex life, only because he says that I have a large vagina. During sex, I become very lubricated when aroused, so I guess that doesn't help him to feel the sensation of a tight vagina. The problem is that he accuses me of cheating constantly and implies that I must have had many sex partners in the past or have been with men who were very large. Neither one of these things are true. I have only had 3 sexual partners including him in my life. I feel so hurt and so rejected now. He recently broke off the relationship for this reason. He told me that I am the most exciting sexual partner that he has ever had but he just can't get past the size of my vagina. He refuses to accept the fact that I had 3 vaginal deliveries in my life and maybe that has a little to do with me not being the size of an 18 year old virgin. I have tried Kegels and they don't work. I don't know what to do.

my fiance and i have been together for 4 years, engaged for one. we have always had a great sex life, but 4 months ago, we had a baby. during my pregnancy we enjoyed sex on a regular basis, and since i have had the baby, he has not so much as touched me. we have messed around and had sex one time, but he was not into it, i could tell after 4 years. i ask him if its the way i look now, or if its anything i can fix. he says he just has no sex drive and he doesnt know whats wrong with him.

he doesnt understand what this does to me! its not that i am a sex addict, but i am a woman. i feel very unattractive and just terrible when my partner of 4 long years isnt even interested in intimacy! i dont know how to really talk to him about it without it looking like all i want is sex. how long can this sex strike last before it is considered a real problem?

First I love my hubby.
We have had no prior sexual partners.
I can not explain the indescribable nervousness and anxiety which builds and builds during penile or digital direct stimulation, to the point where I can not take it anymore. It never reaches a climax or release, no matter how long we go at it. He can go at it for at most five minutes using his penis, but even if he uses only his hands - which after five minutes each tire, and then his arms, which then tire, or his mouth, which also tires after five minutes, I only get extremely nervous to the point where I feel like I am going to cry from it. It makes me so unhappy. I have never ever felt pleasure from intercourse, and do it only as often as I must to keep him somewhat happy, although he is very unhappy that he can not make me happy.
I enjoy the feeling of closeness that sex brings, our bodies close to each other, but other than that, sex is a real turnoff, and I am thankful for each orgasm that he gets in 60 seconds or less, and I dread each sex, fearing that this time he will say, "Now let's try lettng you enjoy sex."
He has stopped trying to give me an orgasm, because he knows that I will subconsciously punish him by refusing his sexual advances more often.

Help. So I've recently just got a new boyfriend. The problem is when we are having sex I orgasm multiple times but he has yet to. He has never come in me. I don't understand what is going on. I've never had this problem with previous boyfriends! Am I doing anything wrong?? What can I do to fix the problem?? it is soooo frustrating. Please help! I need advice asap!!!

im 24 and my girlfriend is the same age, we both have sexual experience she has alot more then i do she has been with 20 or more people and her last boyfriend was large and im medium to small. and i cant make her orgasim with intercourse, i can eat her out and finger her and she gets off but then she never climax with intercourse, i ask her why and she said "my ex was large to say the least and i think he damaged some of the nerves. we rarely were gentle with each other and when he was hurting me he dint care". is there any advice someone can help me with?

I am 17 years old and have had 2 boyfriends. The thing is i can't get turned on. Even when i think about fantasies and stuff im not turned on and neither of my boyfriends have turned me on. Ive been sexually active for a year and have always faked being turned on but i dont want to fake haveing an orgasm and i know my first boyfriend was very hurt he couldnt make me cum. Ive suffered from depression in the past and i know this can effect your sexual desire. But now i dont know what to do because i want to be turned on and i dont seem to be able to.