I cannot complete the sexual process by ejaculating inside the vagina. I have to pull out and masturbate by hand to reach the climax.
Is there any therapy that can help?

I have no problem getting or maintaining an erection, or ejaculating. I just don't orgasm. It just never has any good feeling to it at all. What's going on?

Sir,
I am a 22 year old man. I had a critical heart desease since birth and though it was operated but cured upto 10% only. Now I am young enough and ready for sexual activities. But problem is that I am suffering from severe premature ejaculation problems. When I see any pornographic or sexual movies and photographs my penis automatically ejaculates. I thought to take Caverta, a medicine from Ranbaxy to solve this problem, but I come to know that this is dangerous for heart patients. So, sir, please suggest some medicine to solve my premature ejaculation problem so that in the future also I can have sex with pleasure with my partner.

Hi, I am pleased to see your web site which gives a wealth of knowledge regarding man's sexual problems. Though they are self explanatory, I am forced to pose this question and needed your help because of my and my (wife) partner's age.

I am 46 years old and my partner is 43 years old and we want a child on our own sexual intercourse as the parameters related to child birth in both of us are good. We are married for the last 4 1/2 years. I was unable to have any sort of intercourse with her during this period barring the last two days. I used to have masturbaration frequently before marriage and even after marriage twice or thrice in a week with ejaculation. Earlier I was not having erection at all but lately after sustained use of caverta a sidefnail citrate tablet I am having erection sufficient to penetrate my partner. But could not bring seman out that is ejaculation within few minutes (less than 2) and gradually the temper goes off and the pennis comes out automatically.

Kindly suggest a way for me without taking long time like exercises therapies consultations etc. considering our age and our anxiety to give birth to a child which could or should be less complicated and should be easy for me. Kindly excuse me for putting so many terms and conditions but I hope you will understand our anxiety and age factor.

I spent three years with an unavailable, controlling woman who was constantly pushing me away (let's call her Jane). I didn't really enjoy sex with her and found myself completely unable to enjoy anything sexual after we broke up.

After her, I became involved with a woman whose entire life seems to revolve around sex but who was upset because I didn't want it as much (call her Trina); after Jane the thought of sex just made me feel sad and/or tired. During the relationship with Trina, though, I found myself watching a lot of porn (and was actually beginning to enjoy it). One of the reasons Trina and I broke up was because of my avoidance of sex. After the breakup I didn't even look at porn for two months.

About a month ago I met a woman (call her Kami) and for the first time in four years I actually enjoyed having sex with someone; even multiple times a day (which is rare for me). During this time, however, I started having sex with Trina again and was thoroughly enjoying it with her as well. But now Trina has once again left and, although I still enjoy it, I have little desire to sleep with Kami. Again, the thought of it just makes me tired or want to cry.

Obviously I have had quite a bit of drama with women in the past few years and I'm sure that has more than a little to do with my problems but I would like feedback specifically about my tiredness and sadness. What do they mean? Is it because I still have feelings for Trina? Am I becoming involved with the wrong kinds of women and this is my body's way of telling me? Am I just afraid of being intimate because of all the past drama? Do I need to do some serious work around my beliefs about sex and intimacy?

I am a heathly 26 year old. I have been married for 7 years this July 10th. I have always been with the same guy from high school. But through the last few years, he has not been wanting sex at all? He will always take a blow job but why not sex? That is my question, Why would a married guy don't want to have sex? He has always been different from the normal male. He never wanted sex like most guys 24/7 but he did want it at time, but with in the last few years he can go months like 6 or more with not even wanting it. We have been together forever and have 3 small children, so I know it is not easy to have sex with them around too. But he will come home from work and tell me he tells the guys he is going home to get laid from his wife. But never wants it. Does he only say this so they will not think he is a pussy? I don't know what to think, if you can help let me know.

Hi,

I'm a healthy 31 year old. I have a new partner who I find really attractive. However, to my horror, on 2 or 3 occasions now I've not been able to get an erection with her. Sometimes, I can get an erection, but it is not particularly hard or lasts very long. I do admit to having drunk heavily in the past - but no more than most men. I have also been depressed and anxious in recent months and have taken anti-depressants ans beta-blockers over quite a long period prior to this relationship. However, I had not taken anything or even drunk alcohol for weeks prior to the problems. To put it in context, I have not suffered this kind of problem in the past.

In desperation, I bought some generic Viagra on the net (Kamagra). Which seems to do the trick. But even then, I notice my erection goes soft really really fast?!?! It used to be some time before I could even urinate after ejaculation but now its no time at all. In short, Im worried. I think its probably mainly psychological but im thinking maybe there is something physical. I am a fit guy who eats healthily. My one concern is I had a dull ache in my right testicle for some months a while back. This is gone now but I wonder if there is something wrong.

I have been with my partner for 18 months, having become engaged 3 months ago. Our love life was very healthy for the first 12 months or so but has stopped completely. My partner feels that the men in her life have only wanted her for her looks and used her for sex. She says that the thought of sex now makes her almost physically ill.

When I try to talk about it she becomes angry and irrate. We are trying for a baby by use of a syringe and I am beginning to feel very depressed about this, and feel that this is not normal. I really don't even know where to start as far as counselling or pschotherapy is concerned. I feel that if I approach her about sex therapy or something of the like, that she will become angry again and may even stop trying for our child. Can you help?

My problem is I can't come quickly and because of that my soon to be wife can't have lots of sex with me since it is taking too long and she gets sore after she comes. At first it was nice to know I can have sex for even few hours but now it's terrible.

I'm 23 years old, had only one sex partner since I started sexual life, and that is 7 years now. Me and my girlfriend tried many things, watching erotic movies together, playing with each other before penetration etc. Sometimes it helps, sometimes it doesn't. There are days our sex last for 30 minutes and thats cool, we are both happy with that, but after 2+ hours of having sex she is exhausted and can't have it anymore, while i'm not even close to having orgasm.

If anyone have any ideas, I'd love to hear them.

My problem has been consistent for as long as I can remember and over the last year its began to get worst to the point where its affecting me mentaly. Whenever I have sexual intercourse the sex is good but afterwards my right testicle begins to tighten and become uncomfortable. Within a few hours after sex the testicle eventualy retracts and dissapears completly.

The more I have sex the more intense and uncomfortable it becomes. Just by walking, running or excercising the testicle will tighten and suddenly dissapear and I can feel it up inside my abdomen but cannot see any lump. If I go without sex for a few weeks the testicle drops nicely again and becomes normal and relaxed and stays that way, even if im running or excercising.

I'v seen 3 different doctors and all but 1 said there was nothing wrong with me (probably because at the time the testicle was relaxed and normal) the other doctor refered me to a urologist and I think the urologist thought it was some sort of joke, he touched around for about 10 seconds and told me he couldnt see what the problem was, I felt a fool and just cant bring myself to see any other doctor again.

There must be something wrong - not everyone walks around with 1 testicle after sex, do they? I'v come to think that if I go without sex for maybe 4 or 5 months, that the testicle might drop and stay that way, but havnt managed to hold out that long. I masterbated a lot from the age of 12 and it was only when I reached 15 that the testicle first retracted into my abdomen and has been doing it ever since (Im now 24). It affects my stamina too and cant bring myself to have sex again for days after because of this horrible problem.