she's not being direct about it, but she brings the topic of a threesomeup from time to time, she's asked me if i've had one, which i haven't, and i know the only one she's had is with our housemates (this is just before we got together), to be fair, that was was when i was away sleeping with another girl, but i still feel weird about it. anyway, the idea of a threesome intrigues me some, but i'm unsure as to whether to agree to the idea, i'm quite insecure as it is, without bringing someone else into the relationship. what should i do?

I am in my 1st and hopefully only sexual relationship, The reason why I say hopefully only relationship is because I love my partner so much!
I have a problem that is really upsetting me and my partner is getting upset also because I am getting upset about my problem.

My problem is that when it comes to sex, I fail!, But you see everything else is grand, Like when it comes to Oral sex or anything else my penis works properly, but when it comes to sex it doesn't always work.

I am not a virgin but I have not had sex to the full extend, as in I have not had an orgasm during sex, When it comes to sex me and my partner takes things slowly, like slowly taking off our clothes and stuff it takes about 15/20 minutes to get down to action, when me and my partner are in the room at the beginning of sex I am very erect, like when we are taking off our clothes and taking things slowly, but after, when our clothes are off, sometimes I don't feel sexually excited anymore, and when I do feel sexually excited and when I begin to have sex it feels good yes, but after a while my penis looses its erection and goes soft.

I use durex condoms and they don't seem to help, because when I am having oral sex without a condom everything is fine, You see during sex I don't feel entirely comfortable showing off my penis or body, but I will have to deal with that I know, I am also nervous before sex because I am utterly afraid that my penis will not work and it will upset me yet again, The 1st time me and my partner were about to have sex I was not expecting it at all, and I got freaked out and could not get it erect, It was like my penis was afraid! I got upset and have thought about that happening every time we go to have sex, My partner also offered to leave out sex because it is upsetting both of us, I wasn't entirely happy about it, but after a while we decided to NOT leave out sex.

I am having problems making love to my wife. We have been together for over 10 years, love each other very much, and I am still physically attracted to her. About 8 years ago, a few unfortunate things happened in my life, all which caused a rather serious depression. On top of that, GAD surfaced (Generalised Anxiety Disorder). While I was suffering with this, I was temporarily not interested/able to have sex. But my wife has a rather pushy and determined personality, and continued relentlessly to push for sexual contact, to the point I was totally disgusted with the whole thing. (Being continuously confronted with the fact that one does not 'perform' any more is not a pleasant thing!) This carried on for years.

Now, 8 years later, I have had therapy for the GAD and depression, and have completely sorted out my life. I have been healthy, happy and in a good job for over 4 years now. The only thing that hasn't come back is the ability to make love to my wife. Whenever we become intimate, these feelings of failure and shame come back in my mind. I am 100% certain this is not a general impotency problem, as I am able to 'perform' very well with other women (don't ask !) I am not proud of this and want to continue with my marriage.

I am 30 years old and I have not been sexualy very active due to very conservative culture in Pakistan. But have masturbated a lot in my life. Since last few years I masturbate every 3 or 4 days. I got engaged two years ago and soon will going to be married. Now the problem I foresee if that I come out too quickly....I observed it when I meet my fiancee for few times. I felt that while just playing with her kissing her and playing with her boobs make me come out. I am worried now as going to be married soon bcz if I come out bfr puting my penus in her vegina it will be a very embarassing situation for me . I have reduced masturbating quite a lot but still do it. Is my problem a normal thing or a real problem? As i had complete sex with two girls two years back and those gilrs realy enjoyed sex with me a lot. i came out very late but at that time I was under drugs.....I also want to know what is the normal timing for getting out discharge while your penis is in the vagina?

Any ideas or suggestions?

First Question:
i have a Pre-Mature Ejaculation problem. i reach my climax and ejaculate in less than 45 seconds. the thing that you should know too that i can have sex like 3 to 4 times averagely in one session with my wife with no erection troubles but in the 2nd and 3rd sessions my ability to control ejaculation lasts longer than the first one and it might reach 1min:30 seconds to 2 M:30 S.

My question is: is many ejaculations per session an abnormal situation? will this way of sex life hurt me or have a negative consequences on me later when i get older, i am 26 years old now,? does this effect my sperm count or make me more vulnerable to Prostate problems?

Second Question:
As i mentioned already that i have a Pre-Mature Ejaculation Problem, and i read about this technique called Stop-Start technique that helps improve overcoming this problem. i read the following:
Set aside three 20 minute slots each week, when you can be private and uninterrupted.
First masturbate very slowly, noticing carefully what sensations you get in your penis at the increasing levels of arousal before you are ready to come.
At the point just before you would come, stop touching and wait for the intense arousal to go down. You may lose the erection, but you will get it back. If you were too late stopping, and came, try again later, and stop a little earlier in the arousal.

My Grlfriend and I have been having problems recently and she broke up with me after 4 years because she cheated with another man. I have forgiven her and have told her I want to give it another go. However I am quite an old fashioned guy when it comes to sex and i have certain beliefs. sex is not a problem for me I enjoy making love and having a cuddle and a talk in each others arms after but the trouble is I cant touch my girlfriend "down there" because I feel quite dirty when I do. It might sound silly but I dont think you should do things like that with the woman you love and the mother of your children. Its something I will never be comfortable with and she refuses to compromise. She has given me an ultimatum and basically said "you use your hand during sex or its over". She blames the cheating on the fact that I wont do it. I dont know what to do as I will never be comfortable with treating my girlfriend like a whore during love making.

please help!

I have been married for almost 8 years now, and 3 children. Im 28 and hes 34. We only have sex 3-4 times a year! Im not sure if its because of me or him. Ive tried to talk to him about it and he says the problem is we never have time without our kids being around, which is hard for me to except because they do sleep at night. I love my husband very much, he works hard to take care of us financially, but im just not sexually satisfied. Its also really hurts me that i see him look at other girls in public, watch them on tv and even masturbate in the shower, but it seems he has no interesnt in me. Am i doing something wrong, or is he just "over" me

My husband mentioned to me early in our relationship that he has never ejaculated during sex while on top and I have found this to be true throughout our relationship we have been together since September of 2004. He has ejaculated 2 or 3 times during sex while I was on top however since I got pregnant with our son he has not without first the aid of oral sex or masturbation immediatley prior to ejaculation during sex.
His mother informed me that his father had the same issue so I am wondering if it is possible that there is some sort of hereditary connection here. One other commanality that he, his father, grandfather and the other men in his family have is very low heart rate and low blood pressure I was wondering if this could be a contributing factor. I know that a lot has to do with pyschological however it cant be completely mental.
This has become very hard for me as it makes me feel like it is my fault as if he is no longer interested in me and that is why he is unable to orgasim. One reason I believe that it may be caused by blood pressure is because when he exerts energy on his motion he tends to lose his erection faster than when he is laying down. Please help our sex life is terrible.

Hi there..
Since 3 years before I got married and I do well sex with my wife. But since couple of months I am unable to do fairly sex with my wife as because whenever we want to have sex my penis is not becoming stronger as required for having sex even if i m trying to make it stronger and I started have sex with my wife than few minutes after it's automatically become normal. Recently we have decided to get a baby but the problem of my penis is made me worried. I am looking forward some advice for that.

Hi everybody. I've been reading heaps of posts about men losing their erections and it's kind of made me feel better. But my/our problem is a bit more specific. I met my husband 6 yrs ago and fell in 'love' straight away. "love" not "lust". i always found him attractive but not in an animal way, more like a best friend and all round great guy kind of way.
He had a physical problem which i didn't know about for quite some time into our sexual relationship. His foreskin was too tight and it was really painful for him after he'd been having sex for a while. He would often lose his erection and I would get really frustrated. I've always told him that it doesn't matter cause I love him etc but deep down I was pissed off about it. Once I realised his problem I convinced him to have a circumcision which he did, and since then it has been better periodically.
However, 3 yrs after the operation he still loses his erection when we have sex, more often than not! I am almost NEVER in the mood for sex lately (had a baby a year ago) but I'm always fantasising about affairs and having uncomplicated sex with other men. I DO NOT want to have an affair, but I miss having good sex so much. This situation is killing me as I love my husband with all my heart and would never want to hurt him. I know it's killing him too but he clams up when it happens and I try and talk about it.