I am really confused and wondering if anyone can help me. This is a strange one but a tad confused and partly my fault here. See what you think?
I started seeing someone about 1 month ago, he was nice, and we got on so well I seriously thought he was the one, but he was really affectionate with me to the point I had to tell him to back off, I felt quite suffocated. He called all the time, he did see me when we arranged times and he sent chocolates to my house when I was at work as a surprise one time. It was quite special. We saw one another about 4/5 times when one time he stayed at my place (we never slept together) and that night I literally just wanted to be alone but then I did ask him to stay, when I turned over he couldn’t stop pestering me, asking me to cuddle him, asking me to talk to him, I literally couldn’t take it and cringed at the thought of this guy getting too much for me. So that night I got really angry and told him I didn’t want to know anymore….harsh I know but my mind was going mad. I think really I just needed some space from him this was going too fast. He told me that night he was not going to give up on me and not let me finish it with him, well it made me do it even more. Also there were a few girls contacting him via his phone on a few occasions but then we were only dating!
Then I met someone at work, and told him. I didn’t know what I wanted. Low and behold this one from work didn’t work out he already had a girlfriend which I didn’t know about. Now 2 weeks down the line, I think to myself that I want this first one back……he kind of agrees but his personality has changed… …we meet up and get on so well like we use to like the first time we dated, but he tries to get me into bed and its not happening, the next day he tells me he likes being single…his attitude has changed, he asks me why I sound upset (even though I am not) and asks me who else I am seeing even though I am not. He then tells me that he is still in love with this girl at work but realises she is not for him and too immature…. Still confused??
So I try and knock this one on the head….when out of the blue he calls 2 weeks later the other night asking me how I am, where I have been, if I am going out with anyone and that he was going to pop over to see me…and that he is now going to spain for a couple of weeks as his dad is ill (all his family live out in spain), and then asks me why I sound annoyed….but I am not….is this guy for real? Also he tries to tell me things I want to hear eg: he likes the things I like now, etc etc…I still like him but to be honest I think he has lost the plot!