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How come I can't get an orgasm.

Submitted by Anonymous on Sat, 21/05/2005 - 03:03. Sex Problems for Women

I've been sexually active with my boyfriend for about 2 months now, and I just can't seem to get an orgasm. Everytime he fingers me or rubs me or puts his penis in that area, I'm very close to getting an orgasm but it just never happens. I use to use a vibrator and I was able to get an orgasm off that. How come I can't get one everytime he tries? It gets us both very frustrated.

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I am the same way

Submitted by funnygirl200 on Thu, 11/08/2005 - 19:51.

I feel your pain, my boyfriend is the only person I've ever slept with and I just cant have an orgasm. I can when I use toys on myself or shower heads, but for some reason nothing seems to work with him. Fingers, mouth, penetration.

NOTHING works, Im broken.. :(

He goes every time btw.. which is frustrating because he's done and tired and Im still all riled up and not able to sit still. :( :(

but Im also thinking that a lot of it is psycological, cause Im not happy with my body and so a lot during sex I am thinking about ways to hide my flaws or thinking about other things.. that may be it, but it seems that when im in the shower no matter WHAT Im thinking about I always go.

I dont get it at all. I just keep hoping it will happen one day.

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You have good insight

Submitted by mkarliner on Thu, 11/08/2005 - 23:42.

You really have some good understanding of what might be the problem. We'd suggest that seeing a therapist might well help you. You also might get some comfort in looking on this site for the number of guys who have exactly your problem, and the way they see it, for example http://www.partnertherapy.com/node/850. See Orgasm Difficulties or Anorgasmia

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"HAD" the same thing

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Mon, 27/06/2005 - 14:34.

i have had 3 sexual partners before my boyfriends of a year now, and thought there was something wrong with myself because id never orgasm, id never masturbate because i didnt see the point, and i was worried..
but oneday, it happened...i dont know why, but it did!
heres a little hint maybe..but were all different applogies for detail, i find i cant orgasm unless my pelvis is tilted up, so that im recieving clitoral stimulation.

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i have the exact same problem

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sun, 29/05/2005 - 17:07.

i have the exact same problem but i have been with my boyfriend for 5 months and i still havent orgasmed no matter how aroused i am. i can do it no problem on my own in fact id orgasm very quickly but my boyfriend is also getting frustrated. maybe you dont feel exactly comfortable with him or maybe you just cant relax?

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How come I can't have an orgasm?

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 21/05/2005 - 18:43.

You are probably trying too hard! The more you focus on trying to achieve orgasm the less likely it is to happen. Just enjoy the feelings and sensations of sex and RELAX! Sometimes it takes longer than other times (and longer than it takes for you to bring yourself to orgasm - remember, you know exactly how to do it!) and if you are desperate for it to happen it won't! Next time you're having sex, maybe try gently positioning his hand/face/penis into just the right spot and when he gets it just right, tell him! Men love it when you tell them how good it feels!

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How do I know what a orgasam feels like if I"ve never experanced

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Sat, 18/06/2005 - 20:25.

My problemis I get wet but thats all even when My man penatrates me hard. weve tried every thing When I"m on top in control I feel like I'm almost there but before my legs get really week amd I cant hold my self up any longer and then the feeling goes away and we have to change positions please help me I'll take any advice or tips any one has

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orgasm

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 16/06/2005 - 10:05.

I always have to shake my bean during intercourse. I have been masturbating thousands of times. Thus vaginal pentration doesn´t give me any special pleasure. Also clumsy male manipulations are a turn off to me. My suggestion: Masturbate, even with a vibrator. Your lover will find it arousing very probably and will be happier, if he notices your release.

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