Hi. I have a friend who has not yet consummated her marriage with her husband, even though they have been married for almost three years. She's very private and feels that I am the only one she can confide in. After doing some research about it, she thinks it might be because of vestibulitis, but I know that even if it is this she has a whole heap of emotional problems that she needs to recognise and sort out before she has sex.
She has tried to have intercourse with her husband but finds it too painful. She is in the process of using 'trainers' and has had some success but then gets overexcited about her progress and tries to have more physical contact with her husband. When this doesn't work she feels dejected. I don't think she would feel comfortable going to a sex therapist and I want to help her where I can, but I'm not really sure if there's anything I can do. Does anyone have any ideas about how I can help her? Thanks.