too small!

Sex Problems for Women

Hi,
I'm in a relationship with a guy I really love, I've never had sex before though he has. We've talked about it a lot and both want it, we enjoy touching each other but when we tried to go further than that we couldn't. I'm too small for him to fit inside me. I know there's a condition where some womens vaginas spasm and tense up so they cant have sex but I'm not sure if i have this - he has no problems putting his fingers in and it's not painful for me, any advice on what to do would be great!

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thanks but..

thanks but it says there that it involves either pain or fear of pain - as i said, i don't feel any pain, and im not scared of it hurting - i know it will a little the first time and im expecting that, i know i can cope with it! so is it still likely to be this?

mouth

try him licking you - he can do this for a very long time, so you will gradually relax. as he will remain erect this is a great way to continue with intercourse afterwards

I think you should try k y jelly

I think you should try k y jelly. Put it inside yourself. A little lubrication often makes everything more enjoyable. It will just make it more slippery and might help him go in? Also condoms can be a plan as they help him slide in more..