My husband and I have been together for five years and been married about 6 months. We have a child and before we had sex all the time or at least 3 times a week. As time went on it dropped and dropped and now I am lucky to get it once a week. I am young 22 and once a week doesn't cut it for me. He gets irritated if I masturbate, but is unwilling to have sex, at times he has an erection and he pushes me away. I don't understand. I've stopped trying to initiate sex because I feel so rejected it eats my self esteem up horribly. We've talked about it a million times he keeps saying "Its just... I don't know what my problem is I am just tired" I am tired too but I still want sex.

It sounds like you guys need some outside help, talk to him about it sometime when you are both in a good mood and haven't been putting him under any pressure. It could just be that he's going through some changes it could be more, but unless he admits that there's a problem theres not a huge amount that you can do but look after yourself, spend some time with yourself, meditating and masturbating. And keep being supportive of him as I'm sure he feels awful about the whole thing too! Good luck and remember you're not alone x

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