Yesterday, my boyfriend of 3 years told me that the thought of sex disgusts him and he doesnt know if he will ever be able to have sex. He said its not just with me, its with anybody. He has never had sex before, and he hasn't been abused as a child that I know of. We do engage in sexual acts... everything except for actual sex. A little while after telling me this, he broke up with me (the day before our 3 yr anniversary). He said he only loved me as a friend, and he had felt that way for a while but was too scared to tell me because he didn't want to hurt me. Then the next day (today) he called me and said he did mean what he said yesterday, but only to an extent. He said he loved me and wanted to be with me, then drove an hour to come see me and brought me a card. He was really cuddly and nice when he was visiting me.

Now previous to all of this, we had been fine... no fighting or anything. I don't know what is going on... any advice would be appreciated. I posted about the small break up as well, thinking it might be related to him telling me he is afraid of sex.