Yes, since then, things have changed a bit. We have talked about the subject alot more. We have been having sex more but not enough for me. I have addressed this with him and he still gets defensive. He says, he wants to have more of a buildup leading to sex, with mini teaser dates that don't end up in the bedroom. Now.. that seems fun to me, but I'm thinking it is another psychological block for him. I don't want to fall for all his excuses and end up unhappy with my sex life, 2 years from now.

Regardless of that, I do feel more confident about his feelings for me, and we laugh so much together, that I could not let him go. In the end, I think it is a matter of deciding what's most important.

I'm going to try to schedule a romantic night, with him in the next 2 weeks and see how that goes. I'll keep posting.

i have been going through the same exact thing. My boyfreind and I have been seeing each other for about 2 years now and my sex life has steadily declined. He too told me about past bisexual experinces but when I bring it up now he acts very dissmissive about the whole thing and says that is all be behind him now. I have alsways been very supportive and non judgemental about it so this really confused me. I have to admit when he was more open about his sexuality sex between us was more frequent. He also is really interested in threesomes but only when he is really drunk or somthing. That is something I am not really into doing, especilally with problems we currently have. He will also not "notivce" my interest in sex and go and masturbate later. I find this kind of offevsive and hurtfl. I feel that he needs to be honest with himself and hissexuality. I thnk that is the only way to save our relationship. Talking about htis subject is really difficult because he gets really defensive but I know this problem is really hurting me and I need to do somthing about it. It may be that this relationship is not salvageable. I know he loves me, but he needs to understand that I need that part of him. I am going to try to get him into couples therapy, maybe, if he gay or has some kind of issues, it will help him understand who he is and what he really wants.

It would seem that your boyfriend needs rather more stimulation that usual. This is not abnormal if both parties are happy with the situation. Given that he didn't climax inside you, you should read the pages on Retarded Ejaculation to understand about that problem.

However, if you find that you can't deal with this, then maybe this relationship is not for you.