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HELP! Keeping it up(problem)

Submitted by Anonymous on Wed, 16/03/2005 - 23:02. Sex Problems for Men

I have a problem keeping my penis hard. There are times where she would get me hard as a rock but when we have sex it seems I dont seem to keep my penis up. When she masturbates me I can't get it up but I can get it up when I masturbate myself. I have been masturbating since 10yrs old and a lot. I used to be able to get my penis hard always with my previous girlfriends but with the one I'm with now it doesn't seem I can.
I say to myself maybe I'm not attracted to her but yet she gets me hard when she acts sexy but when we are naked I can't seem to get horny.
Do you think I over worked my penis watching porn on the net? I can watch porn on the net I can get hard but she can't get me hard. Please help.

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I had the same problem.

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Wed, 13/04/2005 - 12:46.

I had the same problem for quite a while. About 5 or 6 years ago when I was in my mid 20's. No amount of masturbation will cause you to malfunction. This is a bad rumor that needs to be aired out. In fact, you can advance your sex life by masturbating several times a day (with or without her watching).

The main problem is to RELAX. If your constantly thinking about "Am I hard..." or "Am I going soft.." or "What if I don't get hard".. your sexual arrousal will never rise up (and neither will you!!!)

How I solved it.. just get in there and think about what your doing (not the state your in). Take all the pressure off about having to perform. When your by yourself you dont have to perform... but you shouldn't have to with someone you love either. Just relax and see what happens. If you give a totally bad performance, who cares... you can hit a home run the next time..

Hope this helps you like it did for me. I got the advise from a dear friend, I have never had this problem since. (almost 5 years now).

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No clear answer

Submitted by mpramage on Thu, 17/03/2005 - 14:31.

Sorry but I don't know the answer. It might be to do with the relationship between the two of you, you might be getting older, you might be using the porn and masturbating to the extent that there is not enough sexual energy left for sex with your girlfriend. You could try stopping masturbating for a while, if you haven't already tried that. Are you under stress/pressure, depressed? You could Find a Therapist for an assessment.

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It maybe as simple as you kno

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Fri, 18/03/2005 - 12:57.

It maybe as simple as you know exactly what to do to masterbate yourself, every man does. What she does isnt the same, it never will be, and it could just be that your mind has trapped you into the releases you get yourself and that unless its the same its not going to work.

Another thing to consider would be to maybe watch porn with her, see if that helps.

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