I am 18 years old and recently tried to have sex for the first time. For the last few years I have always been conscious of seeming to have very little control over getting an erection. I have always been very sociable with girls, but the hint of any closeness beyond just friendship would seem to get me hard. I appreciate that this is not at all uncommon, but as a result of this I was shocked more than anything else when I lost my erection just as I was putting on my condom to have sex for the first time. It was, of course, embarassing, but we were both a little drunk at the time so as far as that was concerned I was able to blag that it was merely a result of the alcohol! I do, however know that it was not as a result of this as I was able to get an erection for a large part of that night, and even got oral sex, to climax, later on.
I am 90% sure that it is nervousness preventing me from maintaining an erection to actually penetrate a girl. I begin shaking when it looks as though I am about to have sex (as though I were shivering) but I don't know what to do to overcome this. It has now happened three times with the same girl, and I am extremely frustrated. I know it will be a fear of performing which is scaring away my erection at the crucial moment, but I dont see how (after 3 times already) this fear is going to go away. The last time (although shivering once again) I felt ready and psyched up, had an erection when this girl put on my condom for me, but then lost it as I got into position. How can I overcome this nervousness as three failed times is enough surely!!? Thankyou for reading.