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Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 28/02/2005 - 19:55. Relationship Problems | Family Problems

I have been seeing a guy since November 16, 2003 and everything was going great until on April 24th 2004 I was raped by another guy while at a party. Then on April 30th I was with my partner sexually and later that night I went to a friends house and was partying and another guy claims to have had sex with me while i was asleep even though my clothes were on me once I woke up. Come to find out the guy that raped me was best friends with the other guy that claims to have had sex with me. Well I found out on May 29th 2004 that I was pregnant.
Well times moved on and I had the baby on January 22nd well my b/f at the times parents had a dna test rushed in and done. well the papers i received looked false and I truly do believe my son belongs to him. well on the 26th of this month his parents brought all the baby's things back down here to me that was up there and my so call b/f sent me my class ring and broke up with me then. Before all of this happened he told me that regardless he would be there with me to help raise and take care of my son. I feel like everything is going wrong now and its mainly because of his parents because they didn't like me to begin with.
What should i do because i am not feeling anything right now I haven't ate for almost 3 days I cant sleep I am severely depressed and having thoughts of suicide. I feel like my whole world has been taken away. If you could help with insight please do so because I need some help.

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PLEASE READ PLEASE

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Mon, 11/04/2005 - 11:16.

i would love to be able to contact you. Although my situation is a little diffrent i have a 14 motnh old and i am severly depressed i am always home alone partner works 2 much i am at snapping point i am always crying i have regular thoughts of suicide daily its driving me crazy BUT YOU MUST THINK OF BABY i have told myself over and over we are the 1 thing in bubs life we are there little world just put all the shit out of your mind for 5 minutes go and look into your babies eyes and think how could you not want to be a part of this wonderfull miracle. Remeber that baby never asked to be born we must protect our children be there for our children (and i am sure that u are :) Stuff his fucking parents LOOK AT YOU a beautifull mother :) FUCK what others think you are above and beyond them hun you must CHIN UP HEAD UP get on with your life because them parents of his arent the rulers fuck them. your world and life is just beginning it isnt easy and it can get tough and things with baby are challenging but when your baby looks at you REMEBER this I have learned WE AS mothers are OUR babies TOTAL UNIVERSE baby needs you. AND I can promise you this THERE is another man out there needing a loving person like you!!!!!!!!!!!.. Your LIFE is just beggining a new chapter a new start why let someones fucking parents whom dont give a fuck about you or your feelings tear your world apart ide be doing this opposite fuck them show them they arent your world you and your family is all u need. i am thinking of you i wish you well i have learned suicide isnt the answer fuck that not for someone else your life is far far far to preceious we may think about it alot but think of those we would leave behind. Beacause tommorow we see the sun shine some people wont, and they wanted to live. thinking of you xx wishing you every happy thought :)

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This crisis time

Submitted by mpramage on Mon, 28/02/2005 - 21:52.

This is a time of crisis for you and your son, and the time for insight will come later. It seems your partner's parents don't want to know, and have prevented him from having anything to do with you too. He is too young and not strong enough. The other putative fathers do not seem to have any sense of responsibility or interest either.
You and your son are the priority here, and you must eat to take care of him. I don't know what Social support systems there may be in your area. Here in the UK we have Health Visitors who help young mothers and see they get the food, rest, support they need. It is part of the National Health Service provision. Your doctor needs to know about the situation and about the suicidal thoughts, and he may be able to get some support for you too. He also needs to meet the baby at some point because he will be needing his check-ups and immunisations soon.

Do you have friends and family who could rally round and lend a hand? A 6 week old baby is quite a handful as well as a blessing. Is he smiling yet, does he have favourite toys, does he sleep at night or keep the world awake?

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no suicide

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 31/03/2005 - 04:06.

YOUR SON NEEDS YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

i am or was in a very similar situation to yours. your son did not ask to be here. it is not his fault and he needs his mother. my sons sperm donor is and always will be a loser. first thing out of his mouth when i told him i was pregnant was that he wanted an abortion. what a sh*t head! you and your son are the future focus on just the two of you a good man will come and sweep both of you off your feet your son will call him daddy and your heart will be happy! your baby loves you and needs you!

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