boyfriend does not come through intercourse

Sex Problems for Women

I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. I am his first sexual partner. We have great sex and are completely comfortable and at ease with each other. He 'comes' during forplay but has never once during sex! It really worries me that I must be doing something wrong. We only really do it in the normal man on top position. Would it help trying another position. This doesn't seem normal to me as I thought men 'came' quite quickly and easily. We find it hard to talk about it.

Have you any suggestions as to why this happens.

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This happened to me for 7 mon

This happened to me for 7 months, but it was because there was something on his mind that he didnt want to tell me. Now he does come once he told me. Consider yourself lucky that he lasts long and you are not doing anything wrong. I hope this can help and good luck!

Try some thing new

Try a few different positions. Any sex can be good but variety is the spice of life. Try getting on top and he can relax and enjoy. Our favorite is "doggy style" and him on top, her face down on bottom. Works every time :)

Siituational Retarded Ejaculation

Thank you for your enquiry. What you describe is much more common than people think and you are not doing anything wrong. For many years it has been accepted that some women do not orgasm with penetrative sex because it does not offer enough stimulation of the right sort. For men 'retarded ejaculation' has seemed a much bigger and more deep seated problem involving hatred of women and a refusal to give up control or commit. I am rapidly coming to the conclusion that it need be none of these, but simply that the vagina does not give enough of the stimulation some men need. They may have a higher orgasm threshold or something. This is a longwinded way of saying there is nothing you are doing wrong, and keep on enjoying your happy sex life and your loving relationship.