Can't reach climax when my girlfriend is sexual with me
I'm a 22 year old male. I don't know why, but it seems as though only I can get myself off. If my girlfriend performs oral on me, I can't get off, if I do it, I can get off. When we make love, if my girlfriend does the work, nothing, but if I do the work I get off quickly. I don't get it. She can go down on me for 4 hrs. and nothing, but if I do something to myself then it doesn't take long. She's actually gotten me off twice orally of the many times that we've been sexual. Why is this happenning to me? She has offered for me to sleep with other women, but I don't really want to risk it. I've been with her for 2 yrs, and I don't know if I want to take the risk.
If I sleep with other women, I might get the satisfaction I need, but then I risk her hating me in the future or it coming back to haunt me somehow.
I havent been intimate with many people at all. She's been with a lot more people than I have. She's been with 2 guys, but doesn't want to have another girl do anything to me.
Personally, that's my ultimate fantasy, to be with 2 women. It feels unfair, but I give it up because I love her. We can only do but so many things because a lot of things hurt her, so it's usually me doing the work when we are sexual.
What can I do? what should I do? I'm very tired of my sex life and just want to enjoy what we do. We've talked about this a lot and it seems to lead to more problems. Sometimes I ask why me? what can I do?