21 & 18 year old asian & white/hispanic "miss me too much?"

Relationship Problems

I am 21 and my girlfriend is 18. We have been going out for about 2 years now. We are an interracial couple. I am Asian and she is Hispanic/White. I never had an ex girfriend, but I had a 2 one night stands in the past. She has had an ex boyfriend for a few years but never had sex with him. So, I was her first, but she wasn't my first. I can honestly say that I really do love her. Ofcourse, the beginning was great with no problems at all. Since I am graduating college soon and I am spending a lot of time on looking for a job & school, she seems to "miss" me a lot. I miss her too, but I just don't think its healthy if her whole world revolves around me. I am with her almost 75% of the week. It seems like whenever I'm not there, she will get an attitude with me for no reason. My question is if it is possible that my girlfriend can miss me "too much"? I always feel bad because I feel like she loves me more than I love her.

Also, growing up with different cultures, she expects a lot of physical love. I try to do the best I can. Sometimes, she just thinks that I am ignoring her when I am jsut doing some work. I really love her and I wish that I can show her that. As far as the sex is concerned, it is still great. We don't do it as much as we did in the beginning though. I really never ahd the thought of "what if there is someone better" even though she was my first actual girlfriend. I personally know its not about jsut the sex. I hope its not the case for her. Sorry for all these questions I started rambling..

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Interracial love

This is often a bit tricky, when people come from different cultures and have different expectations of how a relationship should be. You can get a book from Relate, called "Guide to Loving Relationships" which might help. I don't think there is anything particularly wrong, but she wants more than you can reasonably provide and that is the problem. As you are both young, you have plenty of time to work it out!