Sex can become an obsession, compulsion or addiction, and can be used like any other addictive substance such as alcohol or drugs, to alter your state of mind. Sex makes us feel better, partly because it reduces anxiety, causes a surge of hormones, and feels pleasurable. When the need for those effects becomes a powerful driving force in a person's life, then the possibility of developing an addiction arises.

People become addicted to a range of sexual activites, such as visiting prostitutes and sex shows, masturbating, with or without using pornography, compulsively seeking love and relationships, fantasising about sex rather than living life in the present.

It is very common that sex addicts become addicted to other substances or compulsive behaviours to mask or to support the sex addiction, which is often their main and primary addiction. Alcohol, drugs, and gambling are examples of other addictions which may be used in this way.

The addictive behaviour can become strictly ritualised, and days or weeks may be spent planning the next event or activity. Once it has been acted out, the compulsion subsides for a while, and then the mind starts planning the next one, and the cycle starts over again.
The acting out may bring little or no satisfaction, and there may be intense feelings of shame and guilt.

Stopping an addiction usually requires help from a therapist, attendance at a 12 step fellowship, or other recovery group, and the support of friends and partners. The telephone helpline for Sex Addicts Anonymous in the UK is 0208 442 0026