Now there are three of you and you have become a family, many aspects of your relationship are likely to change. Your status within your wider family and friends will be affected, and people who are not parents may find it odd that you seem so preoccupied with your child. This may change your friendships and social life. As you walk in the street with a baby, people like to stop and admire him or her. This can feel very supportive, or at times a bit of a nuisance.

Between you there will be much less private time, and less energy for your relationship. Intimacy may be more difficult, and sex may be on the back burner. The importance of communicating, understanding and accepting what cannot be changed about the situation cannot be stressed enough! At least you can remind yourselves that with a baby everything is "only a phase", as things change so fast.

It is important for the two of you to get private time away from the baby as soon as you can, even if it is only an hour to go for a walk. If the baby sleeps with you at first, make sure that when your child has his or her own room that you teach them about the importance of your privacy, and the meaning of a closed door. Some parents prefer to give the children free and open access to them at all times, and are not concerned for their privacy.

Another important change is the balance of power between you, while the mother is vulnerable and at home, and the father is out in the world working to provide for them. It can feel very unfair, and this needs to be discussed. If each person's contribution, in whatever form it is, can be equally valued, that sense of unfairness can be reduced.