Joe was a professional photographer, working for a magazine, when at the age of 44, he became aware of weakness in his arms and legs, and pain in his eyes on occasion. He was devastated, after several investigations, to be told that he had Multiple Sclerosis.

Joe and his wife, Jean, had had an active and good sex life until then. A few weeks after the diagnosis, Joe began to experience either partial erections, or could not perform at all. This was a very embarassing and difficult situation for both. After some months of struggling with the problem, they decided on seeing a sex therapist. Once the therapist had ascertained that Joe still had morning erections, and was aware of feelings of arousal, when wanting to make love to Jean, it was felt that the impotence was probably due more to his anxiety and panic at his diagnosis, and what the future held, than caused by the MS itself.

The therapist placed a ban on penetration for some weeks, and suggested various ways of spending time together, caressing, exploring each other's bodies, and generally relaxing with each other. This brought about the desired effect, removing the pressure to perform for Joe, and he discovered that he had erections while doing the 'exercises' with Jean. Over the ensuing weeks, using a graduated programme, they built up towards full intercourse, and after about 8 weeks, the ban was removed, and Joe discovered that he could perform just as well as before.

The key lay in reducing the couple's anxiety, by enabling them to talk about their fears at the changes Joe's body was experiencing due to the illness. Other means of sensual and sexual pleasure were also experienced during the programme, so that, if in the future his potency was affected by the disease, there was a wider repertoire of experience that could be enjoyed by the couple.