Babies are born quite relaxed, but learn to fear, to be anxious and to be stressed. Later in life, we can learn how to relax again- sometimes a vital part of dealing with a sexual or relationship problem. Your therapist will assess any difficulties you have with relaxing, as well as help you identify the situations when you are most likely to become anxious or tense. You can learn how to breathe deeply, and then through a systematic programme of taped exercise, identify tension and how to release it immediately. Relaxation training is effective, and is often a good start in therapy where you may want to make an 'early gain'.