Men can get pain before, during, and after sex, and it is important to be clear about when and exactly where the pain arises. It may be in the shaft or glans of the penis, scrotum, anus, or sometimes another area, the most common being a headache after orgasm. It can happen during arousal, in the erection, or with ejaculation and orgasm, or as everything returns to its non-aroused state.

The first step is to see a doctor, as the pain may have a medical cause which could need medical treatment. A common medical cause is genito-urinary infection, and a visit to your local GU Clinic could check this for you in an entirely confidential environment. They also have health advisors trained to discuss sexual difficulties, and they could tell you if you should see a therapist.

Non-medical causes of painful sex are Sexual Abuse, Fear of Sex in Men, repressed anxiety, and in some cases no cause can be found.

A combination of medication and Sex Therapy is often the right solution for men having painful sex.