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Submitted by Anonymous on Fri, 07/01/2005 - 12:32. Relationship Problems

We got together and the sex was great. 3 times a day, anything goes, it was awesome. We got pregnant with twins and she only let me touch her 2 times while she was pregnant and only a few times since.

When we have sex it's great like before but she now tells me she really doesn't need sex or want it. That she hasn't wanted it for intimate reasons since her first child.

I do everything I can to put her in the mood, I watch all the kids, I clean house, I make meals, I take her out, I buy her stuff, I write poetry, I give her full body massages, but we are still down to like 1 time every other week.

Thanks!

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Not in the mood

Submitted by mpramage on Fri, 07/01/2005 - 19:08.

You sound like the partner from heaven and you are doing everything right, so don't stop! Unfortunately for you, and you won't be pleased to know this, once a fortnight is within the average frequency for committed couples in your age group. I would suggest that with the children as well you are possibly doing better than many. Sorry not to have much hope for the immediate future. You could possibly add gratitiude for the sex you do get to your other many virtues!! That might encourage her, but don't hold your breath.

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Love my wife but thinking of cheating

Submitted by Anonymous (not verified) on Thu, 10/02/2005 - 07:36.

Been in a similar situation and sex is so important as part of our relationship. Loads of inherrited kids and stresses. She has lost any real spontaneous fun at different times sexually. Lots of chat and requests and patience made no difference.Another very committed partner who really loves cares and works very hard to set the right mood. So alone gratification the only relief which is nowhere near right. She looks fantastic and makes me want even more, so now thinking although very high risk to cheat as this can be very exciting. Really dont want to cheat but when there seems to be no effort (almost controlling and definitely selfish) to see my position then am I forced
to accept very low fun and emotion. She is younger than
me by far and yet with this low drive now after several years. Im in great shape and we are very close (we love each other without a doubt). What a predicament HELP

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Help?

Submitted by mpramage on Thu, 10/02/2005 - 09:55.

I don't really know how to help! If she can't see your point of view, would it help to see a counsellor together? Cheating wouldn't suit you would it?

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