I am a 32 year old male and my 25 year old girlfriend has just now revealed to me that she hasn't totally been comfortable with me giving her oral sex. There are days when she is more comfortable, but then there are days when she isn't comfortable. On those days she's less comfortable, she stops me and we continue with intercourse, with which she is fully comfortable.

She answers "no" when I ask her if she feels that she feels too unclean to allow me to continue or when I ask her if she feels guilty for letting me. Her reasoning is that she feels her vagina is her most vulnerable spot and that she becomes overwhelmed with emotion and can not take the oral stimulation. I ask if the emotions are sad or negative emotions, but she says "no" to this as well. She has never orgasmed through cunnilingus and this explains why.

I was her first lover. Before me, she had not had any sexual contact. Her first sexual contact with me was completely consentual. She is very uncomfortable talking about sex even now that she has been with me for over a year. She says this is because she never had anyone to talk to about it, that the friends in her life were very religious and regarded sex before marriage as a sin. She is not a religious person though.

My question is what do I do? I feel impotent to help in any way. Every time I try to talk to her, she becomes highly agitated, so I stop. She says she wants to continue to talk, but I don't want those talks to upset her or cause problems between us. Also, how do I deal with her discomfort with oral sex?

Thank you very much