my fiance and i have been together for 4 years, engaged for one. we have always had a great sex life, but 4 months ago, we had a baby. during my pregnancy we enjoyed sex on a regular basis, and since i have had the baby, he has not so much as touched me. we have messed around and had sex one time, but he was not into it, i could tell after 4 years. i ask him if its the way i look now, or if its anything i can fix. he says he just has no sex drive and he doesnt know whats wrong with him.

he doesnt understand what this does to me! its not that i am a sex addict, but i am a woman. i feel very unattractive and just terrible when my partner of 4 long years isnt even interested in intimacy! i dont know how to really talk to him about it without it looking like all i want is sex. how long can this sex strike last before it is considered a real problem?