I have been with my fiancée for a bout 7 years on and off. We have had a healthy sex life up until now. There has been some issues about other women (not cheating). I have caught him looking at porn while i'm gone a lot. He also has a lying problem. I have caught him lying to me so many times I cant count anymore. Now we have sex about twice a month. I am not happy with that. As many times as I bring it up he really doesn't try to change it. He told me that he doesn't really have the drive like he used to, but then I caught him flirting and e-mailing girls on myspace. If he doesn't have the drive then he shouldn't even be interested in other woman either right?

It really hurts my feelings it makes me feel as though its me that he doesn't want anymore. I'm at the point where if we don't get counseling soon its going to really affect our relationship for good. I have mentioned counseling and he says yes, but he doesn't do anything about it. I probably should do it, but I would like some effort on his part to show that he cares to try to save this relationship. I know that he loves me. I also know that he knows how much all of this bothers me. he also has been having some problems with ED which makes me feel even worse. There is so much more to my story, but never enough time. I just don't know what else to do. I don't know if he feels as though are sex life is getting boring or what , but I need some answers because this doesn't make sense. I feel as though I am in my prime and its being wasted and I am getting older.I am now 30 yrs old. He is 32. Please help me with some answers. I would appreciate it.