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Submitted by triniwoman on Sat, 19/01/2008 - 18:24. Internet Porn Addiction | Sex Addiction

My husband of 14 years is a sex and love addict and also an alcoholic. He just spent two months at a rehab cetnre in Santa Fe and is currently at a halfway house in Miami for a further two months. I just wanted to connect with anyone who wants to chat about their similar experiences for advice and solace. My husband almost never wants to have sex with me and he also suffers with ED which is psychological. We have two kids ages 13 and 11. Two girls. The reason that my husband finally went into rehab was that my daughter and I walked into his office one afternoon and there on his computer screen for both of us to see was a woman masturbating. He was very ashamed and depressed and this prompted him to go into rehab. We have never had a good sex life and I have caught hom three other times in 12 years looking at porn at home but I never realised how serious the problem was until he went into rehab and admitted the amount of time he spends on the net. He has also used prostitutes three times since our marriage and been unfaithful with someone from his office once. I am finding it very hard to deal with the pain of his betrayal and also continue life with my kids, work etc. Does anyone have any advice to give or story to share. He is also a love addict and has fantasies of finding the perfect woman who would make him happy. And I always thought I did.

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Aren't you the perfect woman?....You deserve so much more...

Submitted by FedupinCA on Fri, 07/03/2008 - 00:13.

WOW....I don't see many comments here on your page, I'm guessing that most of us don't want to tell you the obvious. You have NO self-esteme and door mat might be your first, middle and last name. I don't mean that in a hurtful way... just WAKE UP please!!!!! YOur very life is in danger... would you play russian roulutte with your husband with a loaded gun just for the heck of it? NO

So let me tell you a story... with this vision you may find the strenght to do what you NEED to for the sake of yourself and your precious children that deserve a real dad not just a passing by one.

I sat in my office. A women came in wanting to put her granddaughter on her retiree health insurance policy. She had worked at the company many years before I arrived and was in her early 70's maybe. I helped her with the forms and I asked how she came to have custody of her 8 year old granddaughter. She told me that her son-in-law had spent many years messing around and contracted AIDS. He brought it home to the wife... and both were dead within 5 years. I'm always just in major shock when I hear of women that will continue to put up with affairs...not one, but in your case 4. Your having sex with every partner those S$%Ts are having sex with. If that vision doesn't repule you to take care of yourself and your kids the vision of them placing flowers on your grave should. You deserve so much more... please find the help, resouces, parents friends... whatever, whoever you need to give yourself a chance at happiness. If not for yourself...for your kids. No excuses... fear does not give you the right to allow him to play roulette with your life! You've stayed way beyond the "deal breaker" point that Dr. Phil talks about. Morn the death of your relationship and if one day you can find the strength to even consider love again you might not drift off to 50, 60 70 or 80 with that ROCK of a husband around your neck. NO FEAR!!!

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