I feel really confused and any advice is welcomed. I am happily married, we have been together for four years. A few weeks ago I was away for a week, and when I returned he confessed that he had been masturbating and watching porn on the internet for hours and everyday. It was hard but I tried to support him. Anyway, I had a sexual blockage after that confession, I did not want to have sex with him, and it took me time and energy to open again. I do think that masturbation is good if it is practiced in a healthy way, but the way he does it is quite destructive.

Instead, I do not like porn at all, I never did, because I think it dehumanises, it denigrates women and it makes sex look like a product of consumption. And overall, it has little to do with how I understand sex, which is a means of communication for me. The thing is, yesterday I came home earlier than expected, and again, I found him watching porn and masturbating. After what happened, and after all the pain coming from that, how could he do it again, only a couple of weeks later?

I really think he has a problem, and it is affecting our sexual life. Sometimes I feel that he treats me as if I was a porn actress, it's not so obvious but there is something that just does not work. And besides, I am losing my sexual desire and respect towards him due to this compulsive behaviour. Am I being unreasonable? Why does he do it? By the way, he had quite an unstable childhood. May it be because of it? Please, I need some advice.