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Submitted by minnie on Tue, 02/10/2007 - 20:46. Relationship Problems

Hi everyone. I feel like a fool and very embarassed - why - well I have been seeing someone for past 5 weeks and have split - thought I was heartbroken but found this site and it was a complete reality check and brought things back into perspective for me i.e WAS ONLY 5 WEEKS.

If you dont mind would like to spill a bit. Have been single more or less for past 6 years (am 37 & mum of one) Joined an internet dating website - lots of courage needed! met a man I felt I connected with before even met him. When we did meet I could see fireworks in the distance lol. We honestly just clicked. Have spent the past 4 weeks together and weekend past went away to a lovely country house hotel. Had best time ever. Home sunday and yesterday he was on the phone for ages telling me had the best weekend of his life. half hour later he calls to say just cant do it anymore, moving too fast bla bla. He had a nervous breakdown 9 years ago and I am noticing that after a high he hits a massive low and I am finding this hard to deal with. My ex husband is an alcoholic and have dealt with all of that now here I am again with this.

Its hard cause first time in over 5 years really fell for a guy. He told me saturday night he was falling in love with me........anyway am sorry that my problem is so small compared to all of you but its just good to share it.

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Look Carefully

Submitted by Mature Man on Wed, 03/10/2007 - 09:58.

Look carefully at this man before proceeding further, Minnie. Sounds like you already had to endure am alcoholic, and this man may be manic depressive or bipolar, as they like to call it now.

Wonder why the sudden change in attitude on his part otherwise?

Good luck, sweetie.

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Your Guy

Submitted by Rockxie on Sun, 28/10/2007 - 15:50.

Minnie I have been having a similar problem. I met a man online and we have been dating for a few weeks. Wednesday we text messaged a normal conversation as I was not where we could talk. I tried to phone him when I got finished with my work and there was no answer although we had just been messaging. We had a date on Friday AFTER I text messaged him to see if we were still on--he stated of course we were. Friday date was wonderful--things between us were great. Saturday I heard nothing from him and this morning he sent me some funny email that he sent to a list of others. Very impersonal. I believe it is the same issue. It hurts because although I have known him about the same time as you have known this guy, I have not really met anyone in 5 years or so.

I think we have to learn to tolerate some discomfort in order to grow as a person. We must learn to pick healthier men. The discomfort we experience in these "relationships" should be used to keep ourselves safe from this sort of thing in the future. These guys say they want a relationship, but if it gets too close they start to distance. I expect you will hear from him again, but be careful, as it will be a roller coaster--especially if he is bipolar as mentioned above.

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