My partner and I have been together for 9 years. My partner has had some hormone issues and she has since been treated for it. Our sex life has dwindled for the past three years and there was always an excuse for us not having sex. Now that the medication is taking care of those issues, I am still getting those excuses. She states that sex is not love nor is it what a relationship is based on. I feel as though she is pushing me away and I don't feel as if I can tell her that I love her, because I don't know if I do anymore. I enjoy sex and I would love to enjoy making love to her, but there is no intimacy in our relationship. If we do have sex, then it is the way she wants it when she wants it (which is once over a 3 month period)
Am I over reacting? Should I get treated for wanting her?

the lost sole