I recently met someone online a couple of weeks ago, we chatted on the phone for quite some time and got on really well. We then decided to meet up the following weekend, he lived a good hour and a half away from me, so we met up halfway on a sunday. The day was fantastic, truly wonderful, we got on like a house on fire. He seemed really keen, to the point where he admitted he didnt want the night to end. We seemed to share almost all the same interests as well. We decided to go to another place for dinner that evening but he told me he had to avoid his ex who lived nearby incase we bumped into her that night....obviously a bad split there?? or he still liked her? The evening was lovely, quiet and romantic. He told me he was tied up the following sat because of a wedding but would work round it and the following weekend, he was seeing an old friend who had just split from her boyfriend.
He wanted to see me again in the week so we tried to arrange this as well, so he contacted me everyday with texts, he always did the chasing by texting and calling me, when he asked to see me in the week unfortunately i was busy, so couldnt arrange this with him, he took this like i wasnt interested and didnt like him, not so just arranging other priorities in the week. We never saw one another that week. After that he texted now and again, and whenever i called him he was never around or phone was switched off, and he apologised for not being there when i called him! So the weekend was coming up and friday night was arranged, he never called to say when he was coming until literally when he was in his car, so i assumed he wasnt coming over. When he was over, he already had his things prepared for saturday morning's wedding in London. That evening he came down with flu and the weekend went from bad to worst. He also mentioned that he was staying over at mine on the sunday even though i did not arrange this at all with him. When he stayed over he was as cold as ice.....he did stay in my bed but nothing happened that night. The following morning, i dropped him off to the station for him to go to the wedding, i never heard from him all day but only at night saying he was still ill and felt like death...why stay over there then?
The sunday came, nothing from him......sunday afternoon he said he was coming back over to mine, i ask what time...no reply, until he was on his way over, at that point I couldnt be bothered with him. When i saw him i was as cold as ice. I refused for him to stay that night after such a horrible weekend, he wanted to know why, just i made other plans. He literally left my place after that. He then stood at the door and said he felt guilty for ruining my weekend. He went home, received a text from him saying he wished he had spent it all with me..... I didnt reply!
Ok, so the week comes up, i am still fuming....but reply to all his text messages, I then come down with his flu bug. for 2 days i am ill...literally. He then asks me, is this a game of whoever calls first wins as I havent heard from you since sunday. I call him he then asks to call him back later that evening...as he has a client meeting. So low and behold i call him and yes he doesnt answer...so by this time I am confused and fuming all over again!
And you guessed it, i dump him.....well he hits the roof, I say well at the end of the day i wasnt right for you either....afterwards he said that maybe i was just trying to get the dumping in first and saying i never gave him a chance.....true!
so a week later, i call him and say hey lets try again, we messed up big time, he replies saying sure lets take it slower this time, but I am away this weekend so i will call you on sunday night. Well, the weekend went i text to say, hey listen, sorry i messed up, i dont blame you for not wanting to try again or even meeting someone else......hope you have a good weekend away
..he never called......i guess this is truly game playing and total lack of confusion on both sides perhaps..what do you think? I am sure you are just as confused as I am. But also I feel totally depressed about it because i did like him, infact its ruling my head at the moment!