My boyfriend likes to dress in women's clothes

Gay Issues and Problems

I have been having doubts about my boyfriend's sexual orientation.
He and I have been in a long distance relationship for 8 months now, and every time we see each other, we get on so well, are perfectly compatible, can have a laugh, and always have amazing sex. However I have recently discovered the side of him that I have not encountered myself, from the photos he has put on his blog, all of them showing him in parties dressing up in women's clothes, wearing make-up, and covered in pink. To be fair, all his friends are also dressed in pink fancy dress. But these have given me doubts for his sexual orientation, and I doubt that he may be gay and either he does not yet realise or does not want to question it. In front of me, he is masculine, protective, caring and very thoughtful.

Other reasons that give me doubts include the fact that he has many female friends in his social circle. He finds it difficult to talk about his emotions and I think a lot of it comes from the fact that he has had a very difficult childhood that he has not yet fully dealt with.

I know that the fact that I am doubting him is a problem in itself in our relationship, but I just want to know if he is gay or not. I commented on him dressing up in women's clothes once, and he said he likes to do it sometimes, but when I asked him if he was gay, he said that he just likes girls! Is he having an identity crisis? Or does he purely just enjoy fancy dress?! Should I be worried?

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Cross Dressing

He likes to dress up, and it may make him feel good/relaxed/just enjoy being himself more.
It does not mean he is gay, that is something completely different.
Some gay men do enjoy dressing up and camping it up, but most heterosexual men who enjoy cross dressing are just doing it for entertainment and relaxation. Somehow in women's clothes they can feel freer to express themselves.