My husband and I have been married for 22 years and we've had our ups and downs like a lot of couples. However, last year, my husband asked for a separation after I kept money problems from him and he started a relationship with a friend of his. He also admitted to me that he had had an affair after we had been married for 10 years.

After four months of separation, we talked things through and he said that he wanted to try again. He finished his relationship with his friend and we have been working on things since then. However, he hasn't told me he loves me since then and still won't wear his wedding ring.

He has recently seen his friend again and they are now back to emailing each other quite regularly and I found out today that he sent her a text message last night. I don't know the content of the text as he has deleted it and he is keeping his phone very close to him today. (I know he sent her a text because I saw an email he sent her which said he's sorry for sending her an SMS so late at night.) I haven't told him I saw the email but I sat him down this morning and asked if he was serious about wanting our marriage to work and we ended up having an almighty row where he told me that he hates me because I keep him up at night snoring and if I don't lose weight and stop snoring then our marriage will be over. He seemed to think this was fair comment and didn't understand why I was upset.

Even though he has promised me there is nothing going on with his friend, I obviously think otherwise and I now question whether he has any feelings for me at all.

Am I investing my life and love in a marriage that is over?