My relationship with Jill started on the wrong footing - she still
loved the man she was with but they drifted apart and we were all
vulnerable (i was ill) when our relationship began, it was not a clean
break from her ex but as it happened he moved on to another woman and
we got closer.
It was four months since we decided to see each other
officially and we had just come back from a wonderful holiday in
Ireland, she goes back home for three days and finds out her ex. has
finished his relationship with the other woman. She still loves the
guy but more as a friend than lover (she says) and wonders if
splitting with him was a mistake. She insists that I am her lover and
not at all a mistake, which is what i felt for a moment, though admits
to being confused.
The biggest thing she has dufficulty with, is an
intense feeling of guilt towards her ex. For that reason she says she
needs a couple of months time out, (which she felt she should have had
earlier but things were too intense) I cannot see how this will lessen
the guilt feeling but I have agreed. At the end of a wonderful evening
we both agreed to one or two months separation and it is already
driving me NUTS and now fear the worst.