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I'm too sensitive to the way he touches me...

Submitted by jojopt on Wed, 08/08/2007 - 10:03. General

I'm sure that other women have this problem so I'm not crazy, but I have always been quite sensitive to the point where I find sexual touch very ticklish and hard to endure. I have tried to explain this to my husband, who doesn't seem to take any notice and keeps touching me in a way that I can't help but react to in a way that makes him feel rejected. I have felt even more sensitive since having a baby 4 years ago and have had hardly any sex drive or desire to have sex. This is a huge problem for my husband and but every time I try to talk to him about it he clams up and gets all defensive and is not showing any understanding about it. I am wondering if it is a physical problem that I can do something about by taking herbal medicines or even something pre-scribed by my doctor, or is this something I cannot change about my body and my husband just has to accept and deal with?

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Too sensitive

Submitted by Chrissy on Mon, 24/09/2007 - 21:09.

I have a similar problem, not ticklish but extremely sensitive and I think I always have been. I cannot bear for my clitoris to be directly touched with anything but a very gentle tongue. My partner is usually okay but does forget on occasions & touches me there directly with his fingers. It hurts & makes me feel sore afterwards & I have no chance of coming, so I don't bear the discomfort for long I just guide his hand away and he usually takes the hint.

A lot of men are defensive at anything they see as a criticism of their prowess. but you really need to get him to understand what you like & what you don't.

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Sensitivity is important

Submitted by mpramage on Wed, 08/08/2007 - 14:17.

No you are not crazy, and women have this problem from time to time, but it is about the partner, not the woman. Changes in sexual desire after childbirth are so common that they are a part of normal experience, but if you were touched in a way you liked, you might be a little more interested.
I suspect he is maybe actually being insensitive to your needs and from what you say is not hearing your requests.
We are all sensitive in the gental area and need to be touched in the right gentle soft way, unique to each one of us. Each man has to learn from the woman what is right for her. Your body is as it is. It may change over time, but this is now!

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get help

Submitted by bored on Wed, 29/08/2007 - 16:37.

My wife has exactly the same symptoms. Not sure if it started before or after giving birth though. If I try to touch her in bed she goes all funny and we end up arguing with me being frustrated. She's never been adventurous but used to perform oral sex and receive it. She would wear stockings and suspenders which turned me on but no longer will wear them. She won't let me touch her down below, won't try anything new or different and It's starting to get to me.
We are happily married apart from in the bedroom. We have been married for 5 years and together a lot longer, I have never been unfaithful and she is my only ever partner. However I am now starting to think an affair is the only way to go! I don't want to but feel forced to. We have discussed things before and even mentioned relate but never done anything about it. I'm no perve but I do miss oral sex and her dressing up and trying different positions. I have suggested I buy her a vibrator or we watch porn but she is a bit of a prude and won't think of it. She won't even let me see her in the nude even though i find her attractive. I am at my whits end and do want to cheat but can't go without the sex part. I won't use a prostitute so affair seems only option.

Don't let your relationship get like mine, do something before it's too late!

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