Background:
My wife is a resident alien (by marriage) from the Philippines. I brought her back to the United States from my stay in Hong Kong to an already furnished home and provided for her with my successful career. We have been married for eight and a half years. We have two kids.

My wife has severely abused me physically (including stabbing me)and mentally (ruined my career) since November 2003 following the birth of our son (second child). She borrows money to gamble. She sells (and has sold) the diamonds, rubies, emeralds, sapphires, and gold I gave to her to show her my love. She used the money to gamble. She gambles because her church tells her if she is a good person then god will give her riches.

She hasn't slept in my bed since the birth of my son, preferring/demanding to sleep in his bed with him instead.

In June 2006 she started physically abusing my daughter. She will not let my four year-old boy potty train and instead administers enema gel to make him defecate on her schedule. She thinks she can read minds (no joke) and punishes me for things that she thinks that I think. As a matter of fact, she punishes me for the actions, motives and thoughts of others as well. She has encouraged me to go commit suicide at my parents home and blames me for being raped by another American citizen before I ever met her.

She has not been faithful as evidenced by the STD she gave me. She often threatens divorce, but says that IF I divorce her she will kill the kids. I am now unemployed. I am a disabled combat veteran on VA disability. If she finds out that I have money, she takes it with the claim that I ruined her life, she works hard, and therefore everything I have is hers. She doesn't want me to use any of her money (she works), but she won't pay the bills. She has made me three promises: 1. I'm going to ruin your life 2. I'm going to kill your kids

3. I'm going to sell your stuff (the least important threat).

She totally looses control of her anger between the 14th and the 25th of each month although she has shown that she hasBackground:
My wife is a resident alien (by marriage) from the Philippines. I brought her back to the United States from my stay in Hong Kong to an already furnished home and provided for her with my successful career. We have been married for eight and a half years. We have two kids.

My wife has severely abused me physically (including stabbing me)and mentally (ruined my career) since November 2003 following the birth of our son. She borrows money to gamble. She sells (and has sold) the diamonds, rubies, emeralds, sapphires, and gold I gave to her to show her my love. She used the money to gamble. She gambles because her church tells her if she is a good person then god will give her riches.

In June 2006 she started physically abusing my daughter. She will not let my four year-old boy potty train and instead administers enema gel to make him defecate on her schedule. She thinks she can read minds (no joke) and punishes me for things that she thinks that I think. As a matter of fact, she punishes me for the actions, motives and thoughts of others as well. She has encouraged me to go commit suicide at my parents home and blames me for being raped by another American citizen before I ever met her.

She has not been faithful as evidenced by the STD she gave me. She often threatens divorce, but says that IF I divorce her she will kill the kids. I am now unemployed. I am a disabled combat veteran on VA disability. If she finds out that I have money, she takes it with the claim that I ruined her life, she works hard, and therefore everything I have is hers. She doesn't want me to use any of her money (she works), but she won't pay the bills. She has made me three promises: 1. I'm going to ruin your life 2. I'm going to kill your kids the ability to control herself when needed. (Watch out when the bubble finally bursts!)

I have left her and taken the children several times, but she has called 911 reporting me as a non-custodial parent (not true)who has not returned her children. I talk to the cops each time but eventually I end up getting sent home by my parents or the cops (who don't believe that a big Marine like me can't handle it).

I went to a lawyer who told me to file a restraining order and take the kids and file for divorce. Following an incident on June 14th of this year where she was out of control swinging around a knife threatening me and herself while endangering the children, I took the kids to my parents, went to the court house to file a restraining order, but I didn't bring all of my evidence such as audio recordings and medical records, nor did I have the children's SS numbers, so I returned home to get them (the records had to be turned in by 2pm on that day-Friday). I wasn't ready for the divorce part of his (the lawyer's) suggestion since I feel that Adultery is the only reason for divorce.

While I was at the house she came home. She saw me with the papers and said "I'm so surprised!" She promised to go to marriage counseling with me and was generally nice for a month. During this month she continually asked me if I had destroyed the papers, asked me to bring any assets I had outside the house back home for the sake of my children (in case I died). During this month she applied for citizenship.

Then came the day of the of the big betrayal July 18, 2007. She wanted to go out shopping and use "my money". She has always been convinced that I've got lots of money that I'm keeping from her. I let her know that I was broke and she'd have to pay. We returned home with less than she wanted. She put the kids down for a nap, and screwed my brains out (some of the best sex I've ever had). She then said, "Sorry honey I have to tell you something."

At about 4pm right after her declaration that she wanted to talk, a knock came at the door and there was a man screaming when she went to answer the door. It sounded like she was in trouble, so I pulled on a teeshirt and shorts. It was the police. I thought that there was a misunderstanding, so when they asked me to step outside, I did. They arrested me. No rights read. No info about the crime I was accused of. They took my drivers license out of my wallet and threw my wallet back in the house. My wife came out and gave me a big hug and kiss saying that she loved me and said "forgive me". I then felt her quiver like she does during orgasm. In the car, the police officer told me that I was under arrest for domestic violence. He hauled me to the jail read me a restraining order. Bail was set at $5000. I wasn't processed until late that night, and decided to save my one free phone call until I could actually reach someone like a lawyer or family. I had never been arrested before so I didn't know what to expect. I couldn't post bail because the cops never told me about a bail bondsman, and remember that the cops had thrown my wallet back in the house, and I had a restraining order that prevented me from going home. How was I to pay bail?

The next day I was arraigned before a judge. This was the first time I heard what I was accused of. My wife said that I had, a month previous to her complaint, pushed her down continually until she was bruised. I did not then nor have I ever pushed her down. I did take the knife away from her after my son picked up a plastic knife and began to stab his sister with it. But the cops didn't want to hear my side of the story. If I tried to tell them they told me to use my "fifth" and not say anything. But I am innocent! I wanted to tell the truth so that it could set me free.

I requested a continuance from the judge based on the desire to procure a lawyer. Continuance was granted. I requested my phone call. The judge exclaimed that he didn't control things in the jail. The jailer that I was with promised me a phone call after bookings, but any time I asked the guards for a phone call, they said "No", "Not Now", or "I'm busy". On the third day in the afternoon, after being stuck in the suicide cell for three days (in a smock two sizes too small, basically naked and humiliated, taunted by the guards) because I refused to eat or drink while in an unclean environment (I accidentally stuck my hand in feces the first day, not to mention that I also have severe irritable bowel with bleeding and wanted to control it so that I didn't have that problem in captivity), I was allowed my phone call. The one and only phone number that I had given the jail, namely my parents, was blocked. I finally got a hold of my sister. I asked her not to bail me out until she had our family lawyer pick up the original restraining order against my wife (although I had not turned it in). She bailed me out right away since the lawyer said that it wouldn't make any difference.

The releasing officer let me know that they knew I had an arsenal (untrue, I do not own any firearms) and sent me to see a councilor. I suspect that my wife let the police know about my military and martial arts training. I suspect that she was also the one that lied and told them I had an arsenal.

When I saw the councilor, he explained that following the school shootings and some combat vet in Montana who shot his wife, I was already guilty by default to the judge and cops. He explained that they were doing it for the "greater good" because they couldn't afford to take chances.

Meanwhile, all of my efforts to prove my innocence have been hampered by the police and legal system. I am not allowed to return home to collect my recordings in order to prove my innocence. My wife filed another bogus restraining order against me saying that I beat the kids (she is the one!). I haven't seen my kids in weeks. The last time I saw my kids (when I was escorted by police to get my medicines), my son grabbed his back pack and ran out of the house wanting to go with me. My daughter grabbed a plastic bag and said "Wait Daddy I'm not packed yet!" When I explained that they wouldn't let me take her with me, she said, "But I don't want to stay here alone! I want to go with you."

I know my wife is continuing to abuse my kids, but the cops won't listen. I am so helpless, alone, scared, and fearful for the lives of my children and nobody will help. I feel like the system is not working like it should. I feel like dieing.

I talked to USCIS Investigations and they said that if I can get a Domestic Abuse charge on her they will deport her back home. I don't know if I can morally do that. Being without my kids and not being able to be there and protect them is the worst nightmare ever. How could I, in my heart I still love the person she was when I met her eleven years ago, deny her (my wife) from ever seeing her children again?

I have filed for divorce after the jail incident, because I found that she (my wife, the only woman I have been with in eleven years) had given me an STD. In my mind, infidelity is the only reason for divorce.

I have tried so hard to help her. She has been described by several health care professionals as bipolar with a delusional disorder. A nurse had told her that she has PMDD. She has not been officially evaluated as having a mental disorder, but Dr. Schultz's Fem+ formula helped somewhat with her rapid mood swings. She was angry that the formula worked and that it took away her feelings of highs and lows and that it made her feel "numb" and "not alive".

My Questions:
Is there any way to get my wife help?
Why do I still love her even after what she has become?
Is there any way to save my kids from her abuse since I am not there with them to protect them?
If you were in my shoes, would you have her deported, never again to see her children? Could you?
Should I find out who the guy was that she cheated with? I need to forgive him so that I don't carry that burden.
Does the system work in the end if you are a guy or am I guilty by default?