My husband mentioned to me early in our relationship that he has never ejaculated during sex while on top and I have found this to be true throughout our relationship we have been together since September of 2004. He has ejaculated 2 or 3 times during sex while I was on top however since I got pregnant with our son he has not without first the aid of oral sex or masturbation immediatley prior to ejaculation during sex.
His mother informed me that his father had the same issue so I am wondering if it is possible that there is some sort of hereditary connection here. One other commanality that he, his father, grandfather and the other men in his family have is very low heart rate and low blood pressure I was wondering if this could be a contributing factor. I know that a lot has to do with pyschological however it cant be completely mental.
This has become very hard for me as it makes me feel like it is my fault as if he is no longer interested in me and that is why he is unable to orgasim. One reason I believe that it may be caused by blood pressure is because when he exerts energy on his motion he tends to lose his erection faster than when he is laying down. Please help our sex life is terrible. He is home on 15 days of leave and will be returning back to afghanistan in less than a week and we have only had sex twice. I would think a 21 year old male going away for over 9 more months would be a lot more interested in sex than he has been. What should I do.