I am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 20. We have been dating for five years and we dont live together. Our sex life has decreased dramatcally. He barely ever wants to have sex with me. He was never like this and thats why I am very hurt. We have sex once a week maybe even once every two weeks. He seems to be ok with this. I am not asking for everyday but more like 3 times a week. It's getting to a point where only I am in the mood and the times we do have sex I ask. He always tells me that he is to tired, not in the mood, doesnt feel good, his arm hurts and many other excuses. Then he says he asks me to have sex, and he does but he asks me when I really am sick! or when I really cant have sex! I have tried nicely to ask him if he was gay or lost his feelings and he says no. I have asked him to see if he could talk to a doctor about this to see if he has a low sex drive but he wont. I try to talk to him about doing something about this but he says no and just says, "Why cant you understand I just dont feel good?" Ok i do but everytime??? He has always had family problems and his mother is putting a lot of pressure on him. He does say he is stressed out but sometimes I feel like he uses this as an excuse. I have looked online and people say that family problems can affect a mans sex drive. They say to back off and keep good commucicate and help them with their problems. But what do I do if my boyfriend wont talk to me about his problems or wont seek help about this? I