Hi. I have more than one sexual problem. The main problem I've had for several years is that I rarely have orgasms and when they do happen, sometimes it takes up to an hour or two to achieve. This has been a problem for as long as I can remember. I've been on the Depo Provera birth control shot on and off for about 6 years now and I have not had any side effects. I am starting to think that my difficulty in achieving orgasms could be a side effect of the Depo Provera. Do you know if Depo Provera can cause any difficulties achieving orgasms?
My boyfriend has suggested that I could try a different birth control method (he is wondering if there is/are any birth control methods that do not have any sexual side effects) and see if that improves the situation. After my ex boyfriend and I had been in a relationship for 4 years he bought me a vibrator. I did not have any problems whatsoever getting orgasms with that vibrator and I used it for at least one year. It was amazing. Not that I'm a freak or anything but that vibrator broke and I was depressed and have not been able to afford a new one. Although I do not have a vibrator, I am still able to have orgasms from my boyfriend but just feel frustrated because they are so difficult to obtain and he puts so much time, energy, and work into it.
Another problem I have is that I've had orgasms from oral sex but never from sexual intercourse. It didn't use to bother me so much that I was never getting orgasms during sexual intercourse but it is a concern now because I am starting to wonder if I will ever be able to experience an orgasm during sexual intercourse. Although I know it is not that common for this to happen, I know some women do experience this and I would love to experience it myself.
The last but not least problem I have is feeling pain during sexual intercourse and burning pain when I urinate after sex. I have felt the burning pain while urinating for many years but do not know the cause of it. A gynocologist thought I had intersticial cystitis...however, another doctor told me I did not. The pain is so severe during sexual intercourse at times that I do not even want to have sex. My boyfriend has been sexually frustrated because of my lack of enjoyment of sex (don't get me wrong, I enjoy it but just hate it when it hurts...which is a lot of the time) but I cannot help the fact that it can be very painful and uncomfortable so a lot of the times I avoid it or do not want it. I have felt pain before from others maybe a few times at the most but with my current boyfriend it is painful majority of the time we have sex! I was diagnosed with Genital Herpes about 5 years ago but I do not think this is the reason for the pain. My boyfriend was recently tested and he did not have any STD's or HIV.
I apologize for this being so lengthy but I have had a lot of sexual concerns of my own and have been extremely frustrated. Any information you may have would be helpful and highly appreciated. Thank you very much for reading this!