Hey, im in a relationship with my girlfriend, shes the first girl ive had sex with and im experiencing some problems.

I cannot finish with a condom or from oral sex. They both arent very physically satisfying for me, but I also think there is a mental issue in it.

I had been addicted to porn for some years now. Strong fantasy stuff which I think may have desensitized me to a degree. I have since stopped watching pornography, although the temptation still arises from time to time.

Ive tried so many different types of condoms, and they have all failed on me, the only time I can come is when my girlfriend briefly gets on birthcontrol. Which she hates and wont stay on it for more than 2 months at a time.

Orally the things she does should make me finish, I mean, if I was watching pornography of what we where doing, that would be enough for me to satisfy myself.

Masturbation is fine for me, but I think my pornography addiction has somewhat damaged my sexual mind...

The connection during sex can be either animalistic or deep, and the forplay is quite intense

Any advice?